Miss Fisher often says she can never marry. Any reason for this ? Why is she so convinced?
shareShe doesn't want to be owned by a man?
She's rich and autonomous, why on earth would she want to marry and hand it all over to a man?
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Because she wants to be,period.
shareWhy shouldn't she? She has a rich, full life all on her own and manages to employ several people AND adopt and send her ward to a pretty exclusive school with an extraordinary library. So with a rich and varied sex life as well, why on Earth would she need to get married?
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I've just come back on here to say that I agree with others and don't blame Miss Fisher for not marrying. I'm a single person myself and always say "I don't want to get married."
Miss Fisher expresses it differently by saying that she can never marry. As though she has made some past agreement or that there is a sense of destiny about her single status.
I haven't read the Miss Fisher books. I just wondered if there is anything in them to explain her phraseology "can never marry"?
I'm in the same boat as you: I don't want 5o marry nor have I ever had any desire to. I'm too selfish and my dogs, mom, and both grandmas come first. I don't ever want kids either because, frankly, I can't stand them. I like being single and don't even want a relationship.
Phryne is very independent, strong, stubborn (in the good way), and successful so why share her wealth with some man. She feels she doesn't need a man to validate her and is very much her own person. I think by her saying she could never marry is testifying to all that. She can't be tied down and shouldn't have to be. She lives a rich and fun life with only Dot and Mr. Butler. I think having her marry would take away from her character, even if it were to jack.
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In this world, marriage does not guarantee love, devotion, commitment, etc., nor does being single preclude all of those from happening. If people want marriage and all is well for them, then they are blessed.
The way that Phryne is written demonstrates a person who loves deeply the people with who she has chosen to share her life. She could not be more devoted to any of them if a contract had been signed. If at some place and time, her mind is changed, will that make her a better person? One filled with more joy, peace, or security? These questions all speak about how our traditions and culture form us, which is neither good or bad; just different.
I firmly believe that people can be totally committed to each other without the forms. Listening carefully to her words, she never denies that she is closed to love and all that means to her.
In ancient Scotland, people who want to be together for each other and a family together pledge their love for each other while holding their hands in a flowing brook or stream. Only they knew if the action was truly taken or not.
In her fictional time, place, and with what she had experienced to that point, it could be completely up to trusting someone to love and respect her for all of who she is as she knows herself to be. Who knows what motivated her creator to place the barrier to what many or us might believe is "more"? I've no clue, but after my first marriage ended long ago, I've managed to never want a repeat.
That said, loved has never been barred from the door.
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I'm pleased to hear that I'm not the only misogamist. You're probably right and Phryne is expressing choice rather than having some obligation by saying that she can never marry.
shareDid you mean "misandrist"?
But I don't see any who posted above who actually expressed negative opinions of men/?
No. I certainly didn't want to convey any hatred against men or women on this post.
A misogamist is a hater of marriage which can apply to either men or women. I am a man myself so I hope that you can appreciate that I am not trying to invoke any sex war on here.