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The ultimate irony of 'The Slap'....


OK, I've watched the first four episodes of this mini-series... and I think that it's perhaps the ultimate irony of "The Slap" that, of all the people assembled at Hector's BBQ, it's Harry that delivers the blow against Hugo.

Harry, who swaggers through life acting as if the entire world owes him something... Harry, who evaluates the people around him entirely on the basis of what they can do for him.... Harry, who expects his nearest and dearest to be subservient to his every whim.... Harry, who throws tantrums and resorts to threats and emotional blackmail whenever things don't go his way....

In short, Harry, who behaves like a spoilt brat most of the time, is the one who loses his cool when it comes to dealing with an actual spoilt child.

Of all the people assembled at the party, Harry's personality strikes me as being the closest to Hugo's - Harry is the kind of man that I would imagine Hugo growing up to become, given his upbringing.

Am I alone in thinking this way?

In watching Harry's episode, and seeing the way in which Harry interacts with his wife, colleagues and family, all I could think about was how Harry's behaviour reminded me of Hugo's behaviour at the party... particularly the way in which they both resort to threats of violence and emotional blackmail when their wants are challenged. Certainly, there's a childish quality to the way in which Harry fantasises about blowing away Rosie whilst playing first person shooters.

It also strikes me that Harry and Rosie have more in common than either would like to admit. It seems to me that both of them are people who never really grew up, and are both stuck in the mindset of children.... many have remarked what a manchild Hector is, but he has at least enough adult maturity to realise when he's making a mistake, even if he's too weak a person to stop himself... whereas Harry's decision making is governed by the same narcissistic priorities of a child, it's all about him (haven't seen Rosie's episode yet, so I don't know if she reveals hidden depths there, but her decision making also seems to be as much a product of childish narcissism as concern for her son).

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Well spotted, and I fully agree.

To react - or over-react - to the behaviour of another without consideration of context, or the POV of the other is in fact to behave like a child. Until the age of around 4-7, when we are all meant to develop empathy, kids are narcissistic - it's all Me Me Me! Those who skip the empathy development - as some kids do, due to a whole mass of influences, abuse being one - go on to develop full-blown adult narcissism - like Harry.

All of Harry, Rosie and Hugo behave like children. But the only one with a right to is the 4-yr-old.

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Yet when he found that an employee had been embezzling, he dealt with it constructively, rather than sticking he feet in concrete.

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That's a great point, I didn't think about that. I guess Gary and particularly Rosie rivaled Hugo in the immaturity department too. The irony I picked up on above all else was that the slap sent waves of events and repercussions through each of the main characters whose POV we see. And every one of them has something happen that completely tears them down and reveals their deepest unflattering insecurities or weaknesses, leaving them totally vulnerable and broken. Yet Harry escapes this, when he was the one who started it all. I know he experienced pressure and stress while the case was going, but ultimately he got off and could maintain his guarded image and reputation, even though he broke his wife's jaw, even though he was screwing another woman, buying cocaine from her and paying her bills behind his family's back. He was the only one not forced to face the deepest ugliness of his own character and behavior. Hmmm...

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I think they all had their childish flaws in different ways, but Harry definitely came off most as the spoiled brat in a man's body.

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Well I don't think he was going to do anything until the little bastard tried to attack him and wave a cricket bat at his kid.It looks like they both needed to be introduced to the belt more as kids.







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"Well I don't think he was going to do anything until the little bastard tried to attack him and wave a cricket bat at his kid."

For sure, Hugo's behaviour was provocative and I can understand why many people would say he had it coming.

But considering the way that Harry beat up his own wife, and fantasises about wreaking violent revenge on both his employees and Rosie, I really wouldn't be surprised if he had taken a swipe at Hugo anyway, just for being annoying.

Certainly it seemed to me that Harry's motivation for slapping Hugo has a lot more to do with venting his own frustration, and asserting his own narcissistic ideal of masculinity, than protecting Rocco.

"It looks like they both needed to be introduced to the belt more as kids"

Exactly my point, throughout the whole series Harry behaves like an arrogant and narcissistic spoilt brat. The man has severe entitlement and anger management issues, and I suspect this stems from a similar upbringing to Hugo's.

Now that I've finished watching the series, I'm still struck by the many similarities between Hugo's personality and Harry's.

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Its implied that Harrys father was violent with him so I don't agree there and while Hugo is an absolute brat who looks set to grow up to be a horrible human being he had dropped the bat when Harry hit him.

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Ugh, I share your atheism but this nonsense that hitting kids with a belt is a good thing...just, no. 😞

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I didn't think about it at the time, but now that I've read your post, I totally agree with you.

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That's actually a good point. I disagree that Harry is like Hugo or Hugo will grow up to the Harry. Hugo will have no drive or patience for anything. Harry, may be pushy, but so far he seems mostly fair, except for the time when he physically intimidated his wife for spreading that idea that he should apologize. Here is where I have a real problem with art, art in general, the depiction of someone's idea of reality, might not have any basis. I don't think someone who otherwise acts like Harry acted would do that to his wife. He might get forceful or violent in other circumstances, but just for coming up with the suggest that he apologize, that was stupid. But, then they show him in his imagination doing violent things, so they are stacking the deck for viewers' emotional reaction.

Harry though emotional, self-centered, and sometimes violent, or will to use violence in certain cases is essentially civilized. Hugo is a child and is not civilized, and with a mother and father like that I don't he will grow up to understand civilized behavior or conform to it.

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