I get upset by reading so many comments here about wanting to slap Hugo. How would that help? It's his parents fault that he acts the way he does. Accoring to his parents, nothing is ever his fault - even when he spits at someone the blame is put on the person being spat on. He hasn't been taught to take responsiblity for his actions.
I fail to see how beating someone would teach them to tell right from wrong.
Certainly the slap was wrong. But as his parents clearly aren't ever going to give him any kind of disciplining--to the contrary, they'll reinforce the sense that he's the victim if his misbehaviors bring any unpleasant consequence--it can only be helpful if he at least learns that outside his family, his brattiness and destructiveness won't be tolerated. Of course, that should be communicated in non-violent ways. Plus, while no parent likes being told what to do with their children, the other adults should make their displeasure over the child's behavior known to his parents every time something happens. Even if it gets as far as "We'd love to have you over, but you'll have to leave Hugo home with a babysitter until he's learned some self-control." Which is rough, but why should anyone have to tolerate their friends' kids routinely wrecking their belongings and aggravating their own kids? If you've raised your own children to be reasonably well-behaved when in other people's homes, you have a right to expect the same in return, especially when it's an ongoing problem. Any kid can have a bad, misbehaving day, but when they're ALWAYS out of control, it's fair to say they're persona non grata in your home until the parents will take meaningful responsibility for their actions.
shareIn all fairness, his parents do love him. In a country/world full of abused unwanted kids, Hugo was a mother who dotes on him and despite her flaws, is attentive and kind to him.
Everyone has different ways of handling children.....I don't enforce discipline on my kids, but I know I am not a bad parent and I doubt any social service agency will think that either.
Parents are different.....doesn't make them better or worse, show me someone who says they are perfect as parents and have the perfect kid and I will show u a liar
How about this someone *beep*'s Melissa George in the ass and makes little Hugo watch that'll be much more damaging to his psyche then getting cracked across the face.
shareIf your response to your kid biting someone would be to comfort him instead of telling him it was wrong, then yes, you are a bad parent. Sure, no social service agency would take him away for that but that doesn't automatically mean you're raising him well.
shareShe is a terrible parent whose lack of anythi g resembling parenting will ruin him.
shareShe is a terrible "mother" whose lack of anything resembling parenting will ruin him.
share> that should be communicated in non-violent ways.
The kid was raised to be unable to take in information in verbal form. He did not need to develop reason since his mother only responded to his every whine and pout. I think the slap, hard to justify it or recommend it, because it is essentially violence, but I don't think it was a big deal. The assumption that I am making here is that it was not injurious or done out of hate or with malice. It was an honest non-escalating reaction to instantaneous behavior.
It would have been better if it had not been a slap across the face - like a rap on the knuckles or turnaround and swat on the butt.
It is not the child's fault he wasn't raised properly
"How long is that going to be his 'get out of jail free' card? When he's 12 and steals a car, when he's 15 and vandalizes his school, when he's 16 and maybe kills somebody? Is it still going to be 'well he wasn't raised properly, it's not HIS fault'"
Bit melodramatic. Being a brat at 3 is hardly a sign you'll grow up to kill people.
There's a difference between the responsibility you expect a child to take from an adult. As a 3 year old he can't be expected to understand the proper way to behave and his parents are failing him by not teaching him. By the time someone is an adult they are expected to understand right from wrong and they alone are responsible for their actions.
Was he three years old? What was the kids age ... and if he was 3 why was he playing with the big kids with something that could be dangerous?
shareMaybe not his fault, but at some point it has to be his responsiblity, no?
shareIt's the parents' fault, but it eventually ends up the community's fault (but we see what happens when a non-parent tries to intervene!), and then once old enough, the individual's fault for not learning how to adapt.
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Yep, and if he doesn't learn, the world is going to "slap" him a lot harder than this because it won't put up with his *beep*
shareEventually, he's going to have to be held responsible for his actions. With the way he was being raised, he's never going to know that he needs to be held responsible for what he does.
sharelol really think the other parents where much better??
shareThe issue is about what to do in that specific moment. Sure, HARRY or someone else could've snapped and yell at ROSIE & GARY about their parenting methods, but that wouldn't have stopped HUGO.
shareI think getting slapped by the man in the movie ... ( I have not watched this, only FF-ed to the slap and wanted to see what happened ) might have taught the kid to think a little bit. A honest emotional reaction can get through any adult talk which clearly did not do the kid any good until then. Clearly the slap was too hard. I don't know from the show whether the kid of injured or not - if not I think too much was made of it.
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