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The drawbacks of a relationship with AI

posted 8 years ago by gingertrickster
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First of I liked the film and found it plausible because I am a romantic - even though I pretend not to be. You could see how much comfort the relationship with Samantha gave him, and I guess he wouldn't have to put up with things like his girlfriend being on her period. BUT one of the things that makes a relationship strong is that you can look after each other, which she wouldn't be able to do. He would have no significant other to look after him if he got sick for example, or to go on holiday with, which is why the relationship would have no mileage.

[–] Ithilfaen 8 years ago

and I guess he wouldn't have to put up with things like his girlfriend being on her period.

lol let me guess. You're a guy. Oh the drama. Having to "put up with your girlfriend having her period". How on earth can the stronger sex survive those crippling challenges?

BUT one of the things that makes a relationship strong is that you can look after each other, which she wouldn't be able to do.

Another typically male comment. Being in a relationship, a loving one, is not about what the other person can do for you. He would also not be able to take care of her. She would never need him like he needs her and that's what happens.

For every lie I unlearn I learn something new - Ani Difranco

[–] gingertrickster 8 years ago

That line about putting up with girlfriends on periods wasn't 100% serious but is based in fact. But to call the male the stronger sex is a little sexist no?( unless you meant it 100% literally ) I would actually argue the other way and say that women have to so many issues to contend with in their lives eg. childbirth, discrimination and sexism in and out of the workplace, that they evolve into stronger people than men. I am guessing you are a woman and have no problem with saying you are probably a stronger person than me.

[–] eyespy-75480 8 years ago

Of course a relationship is about what each person can do for another. Any basic Socioligy or Communication textbook will tell you that. Every single relationship, whether familial, friendly, or Intimate, has a cost-benefit ratio.

This isn't necessarily a bad thing, of course. And it's certainly not sexist, as you were quick to point out. Two people in a relationship meet each other's emotional, sexual, and intimacy needs, no matter if it's a hetero or homosexual relationship.