Anyone read the book? (Spoilers)
I've not, but I just tried to look up a summary & it suggests that her husband leaves her and she quits her job at the end? Can anyone verify this?
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Seriously? A happy ending? I hated the book when I read it. I was disgusted at the message that you can't have a career and family at the same time if you're a woman, but if you're a man it's fine. Why on earth did they never even consider the fact that he could maybe have helped her out a bit, before she had to give up a job she was great at and enjoyed? This sort of message is damaging to both men and women - it implicity tells women that they shouldn't consider a career and children, and in turn that tells men that they shouldn't consider being the one to stay home and look after the children. I'm sorry if it sounds like I'm having a go at you, as I don't mean to. You're completely entitled to your opinion - it's the book itself that I've having a go at, and I really couldn't stand the book!
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Kate loved her job, and I actually thought they were in a win-win situation!
This was exactly how I felt, which is why I was so disappointed with the ending. I felt like they'd both lost out in the end, because I was left with the feeling that Kate would eventually become dissatisfied with the forced choice and mabe even grow resentful towards her family.
Then again, I hated the husband. I can see why it could be seen as a happy ending if you liked him.
I didn't know that the author has ben on Oprah; it might be worth a look. I'll try to stay open-minded, but I'm not very good at that! It would be nice to let go of some of the hate, I suppose.
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From what I have read, it is stated that her job was putting a strain on there marriage. Is it so wrong to save your marriage and let his less demanding job get them thru. I respect what some of you are saying, but if there is problem and the decision is made by both of them, then we as viewers should accept that this is what she wants not what the viewer wants. All women don't think alike.
shareCaitlin, your post is EXACTLY what I was thinking when I read the previous poster's summary of the book. It's like because we have vaginas, we're not able to have a career AND family, but men can? I find that ridiculous and REFUSE to accept that, sorry men. I'd rather the bastard divorce me, he's clearly not worth it.
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Trainscreen, I don't think the problem is you at all and I don't think anyone meant that. You wrote a great summary, thanks. The plot of the book, to some of us, is just a little cringe-worthy. I'll go a step farther and say I'm a little tired of these plots being levied at both genders, the overworking-neurotic-absent parent who works because (s)he is too selfish to see what it is doing to his/her family. Inevitably, they are always white-collar professionals who live more than comfortably with help from housekeepers, nannies. They're never blue collar family where working is a necessity and mom and dad both have two or more jobs because they have to, they never have to leave their kids with crowded day care centers. They just seem to have a strange, unrealistic vision of what it means to care for a family and prey on feelings of guilt and inadequacy.
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