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Are sex addicts more entitled to sex than others and have it easy?


I might ramble on so bear with me.
With films like Shame which is gritty and depressing and comedies like Don Jon and Thanks For Sharing and I don't know how many other 'reality' TV shows make it look as if it's so easy for sex addicts to get laid. The characters simply pick up any woman from a bar or other places and it all goes smoothly and they jump from one to another.
There is a debate about whether women can get laid more easily than men and if that's true, then even with good looks and confidence that doesn't mean they will attract EVERY woman and successfully bed them, so how can they claim to have bedded so many and blame it on sex addiction? What if someone says no?

Furthermore, why are men called the more stigmatic 'sex addicts' while women are called 'nymphomaniacs'? Speaking of which, I found this http://sexperienceuk.channel4.com/videos/7170 and I think it says alot about women these days, especially all the comments.

I guess my point is: if someone claims to be a 'sex addict' does that mean they have special permission to have sex as many times as they want and is that really a bad thing?

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Men over-exaggerate their number of partners and women under-exaggerate, so I never trust sexual partner statistics. In my experience in college, women slept around a lot more than men. It kind of disgusted me, actually, how incapable they were of loving other people and how proud of that they were. I don't understand why the media always portrays men as raging abusive sex-obsessed *beep* In reality, women tend to be much more that way.

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Movies really glamorize sex addicts. Real male sex addicts often sleep with about any woman who will have them. They might spend thousands on hookers, strippers, etc. They sometimes get arrested for flashing or molesting underage girls. Some are just addicted to porn. I had a friend who was a VIRGIN sex addict, which sounds crazy, but he really did drive himself and everyone crazy obsessing about the sex that he couldn't get.

Yeah, there are probably sex addicts who easily sleep with lots of beautiful women just like their alcoholics who only drink champagne on their luxury yachts, but that's probably not your typical sex addict.

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Both women AND men can be sex addicts. It's how they relate to and use sex that's the problem, not how often they have it, with whom and how it's accomplished (one-night stands, cruising etc.). Much like someone who can drink every night but not be an alcoholic. It's the persons attitude/relationship to their fix/nemesis that makes the difference. Addictions are a very complicated subject. By the way, the male equivalent of nymphomaniac is satyromaniac (from the Greek mythologies of nymphs and satyrs).

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I once met a man with sex addiction in the psychiatry clinic where I work. He actually came asking for help since he was fed up with it. He was married with a child. Interestingly, his wife was aware of his addiction and she was a very understanding person. She had not caused problems as one would imagine except for asking him to get some support.
According to him, finding a woman to have sex is not as difficult as we would expect. For example, if he is travelling in a bus, he can work out which woman he should hit on through his experience. He said that he was successful in about 95% of cases. Apart from this, I have seen several people with similar behavior who seemed to possess a sort of instinct regarding the women who are likely to have sex with them with great success.
So, in my opinion, what movies depict about sex addicts is not far from reality.

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Sex addiction is a crutch, just like all addictions. As a nurse for over 20 years, I have yet to see any scientific evidence that actually backs up psychological addiction theories.

"Sexual addiction" is simply an impulse control issue. You can either control your impulses, such as not stealing the diamond ring you like, or you can give into them and steal the damn ring. It's that simple really.

I love sex. I want it all the time. Every time I see a fairly good looking man I imagine what sex with him would be like. I think of hot sweaty bodies and climaxes, but that doesn't mean I'm going to openly flirt with him and then screw him.

Anyone who tries to claim they have a sexual addiction is actually a weak person. Someone who is childish. Children cry because they want something and they want it now. Essentially a person with sexual addiction is acting on the exact same level.

Now, if they simply want to have sex a lot, then fine. Call it what it is: a hobby. Don't try to patronize the world by calling it an addiction. There is no special permission, there is only lying, weakness and being pathetic when it comes to the so-called "addiction".

Random Thoughts: http://goo.gl/eXk3O

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Furthermore, why are men called the more stigmatic 'sex addicts' while women are called 'nymphomaniacs'?


Do you seriously think being called a 'Maniac' of any kind is less stigmatising than being called an addict? Also... Nymphomaniac isn't a medical term people use anymore so I don't know what you're getting at there. It seems like some kind of sexist jab.

That aside. Male 'sex addicts' ( People with hypersexual pathologies, usually as a result of abuse in childhood or mental illness.) almost always have sex with men even if they're straight (older gay men being a favourite target as they are unlikely to discriminate). In fact 'sex addicts' generally aren't attracted to the people they have sex with. Its a pathology. An illness. They are generally encouraged to be totally celibate as part of therapy.

In answer to your, frankly bizarre, question. Sex isn't something you " get" its an interaction with another person.No one is 'entitled' to sex with anyone (except themselves). Ever. There are no circumstances where someone should feel obliged to have sex with someone else.

I can't decide if you're trolling or just very young, but either way you should educate yourself. Read this: http://www.cracked.com/personal-experiences-2082-when-sex-drug-6-ugly-realities-sex-addiction.html

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For any reasonable heterosexual male, a major question regarding this movie is: how on Earth was this guy able to have so many female sex partners? I am pretty sure that being a sex addict had very little to do with it. Being a sex addict does not make it any easier to "get women". Indeed, most male sex addicts use porn or prostitutes, they do not go around successfully picking up women on streets. The reason the guy in this movie was so successful with women lies in the fact that he was good looking, well off financially and had good "game". Being a sex addict simply motivated him into developing and using these advantages. Also, let us not forget that this is a fictional movie; we don't know how many male sex addicts actually live the kind of dream life we see in this movie.

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confuseus say: man who hunt truffles every day, find more truffles than man who hunt truffles once in a while.

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Most of them were prostitutes. Also most male sex addicts have sex with men. Even the straight ones.

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