Kody is a total jerk but Meri told him to stay away and not stay at her house anymore, but now she is whining because she has to do her life by herself and isn't getting attention? I am not a Kody fan at all but you told him to stay out of your life and not come by so what did she expect would happen?
He got put in one of those darned if you do, darned if you don't type of situations.
shareAgreed. It seems like Meri is living in denial. I believe that she brought up the issue of plural marriage to Kody (although I could be wrong). However it came about, she was on board with it. She recruited the other 3 wives. So she knew with each successive wife (and child) that she would have less and less of his time. She feels jealousy, which is normal and understandable, heck, all the wives admit to struggling with that and it impacts their relationship with Kody. But Meri, instead of taking on the matriarchal role, a caretaker role to the whole family, seems to have become a recluse and looking outside this family (that she helped build) for sustenance and meaning. She made Kody her primary connection to the family, instead of building meaningful friendships with the other wives that would sustain her during rough times with Kody. Why didn't she go to school? Why not get a job again? Meri seems to have lost her sense of self and purpose and is looking externally for others to validate her. She should work on building her character and finding her purpose for herself, and not seeking it from others.
shareI believe that she brought up the issue of plural marriage to Kody (although I could be wrong). However it came about, she was on board with it.
I completely agree with your post. He couldn't see fit to marry either Janelle or Christine legally, but now the newbie gets that perk? What a crock of BS. Adopting the kids was the crap reason, and I won't buy that for a minute.
shareMeri was raised in a polygamist family and that is all she knew. It was normal for her, and in their religion having multiple wives is required to go to Heaven. So at least in theory she was on board with Kody marrying other women. Perhaps living with the situation was a different story.
shareMaybe she was hoping he actually took his vows seriously.
shareWell it seems like he did, she clearly did not if she was willing to look outside the marriage and be with someone else.
shareLol!! He is sleeping with other women and is constantly outside his marriage to meri. She is in a marriage with a man who goes out and finds another wife when he gets bored but she breaks down and has an emotional affair after he divorced her and she is the bad one? He doesn't seem to behave as a husband to anyone but Robyn.
shareThat is the religion they have chosen, which these women have agreed to, one man and multiple women. Not to just date anyone outside of their spiritual weddings. Again you fail to realize the women agreed to this, 1 man and multiple women because of their religion.
She chose this lifestyle.
All marriages have issues but it is a totally different thing to tell your husband not to come by and to stay away so you can find a new man.
I don't fail to realize that she has a religion that has brainwashed her into believing that her husband has the right to more in life than her. I fail to stick my head in the sand and act as if Kody was at all present in the last 5 years and most likely longer. He failed to act as a husband should even in their chosen religion. When someone is going through a very tough time they will ask those close to them to leave them alone that doesn't mean they mean it and it doesn't mean that a husband who actually cared at all for his wife would do it. He ditched Meri way before she went out seeking a human connection with pretty much anyone else and then was conned by yet another person. I fail to see how you are throwing the blame at her feet when he so obviously gave up on her a very long time ago.
shareI think Meri hasn't taken accountability (from what we've seen on the show) for her role in this. Yes, Kody left her alone after she kicked him out, and they had been struggling for years before that, even before Robin came along, as we learned in tonight's episode. Yes, Mariah left and she was an empty nester. Yes, she was the victim of a cruel hoax. But we haven't seen Meri accept her portion of the blame for this. Kody finally admitted it on the show tonight. But Meri hasn't. I don't think people are "blaming" Meri, at least I'm not, but I think she does need to accept her portion of responsibility for letting things get so bad. I think that is what Mariah is waiting to hear, and possibly Kody too. The times Meri has said sorry, it wasn't from a place of contrition, it was almost sarcastic, and she usually followed it up with anger toward Kody. "Well I'm sorry I messed up, but you, Kody, weren't there for me". I think for their relationship to heal, they both need to apologize for letting it get so bad.