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Only one wedding a year


Why would Mykelti want to get married so soon after her sister?! Is she obtuse by saying Kody could do a wedding a week after Madison's? Both weddings would be more special if some time elapsed between them.

I love the idea of the guy asking the father for his blessing, but, honestly, a heart to heart discussion between Christine, Kody, and Mykelti was in order first. The girl is very impulsive, and needs to be told that if she and Tony really are meant to be together, then waiting for a year or two will only make them stronger. The whole thing was ridiculous.

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Now they love Tony. I know they really don't, but what can they do? I don't know when they are getting married but they had a shower for her last weekend. Poor Mykelti. 😱

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Think they are getting married this next month.

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That makes sense - everyone will be home for Christmas. Not that the marriage makes sense.

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Juliegirl, I agree, agree and agree. If ever there are two people not ready for marriage, it's those two. They act like little kids wanting to play house. I have not heard one responsible word come out of either of their mouths...

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I think the problem stems from the idea that whomever marries Kody's daughters will take over his fatherly role for them, instead of concentrating on making their daughters strong, independent women that can take care of themselves. Not even having a conversation with Mykelti before her boyfriend asked for permission to marry her is way screwed up. And, yes, they both seem very immature and ill equipped for marriage.

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I think it has less to do with Maddie's wedding than Mykelti and Tony wanting to knock boots and getting TLC to pay for their wedding while they still have a show. Their timing could have been better, but I think it's unrealistic for the Browns to expect only one wedding a year when they have multiple kids all around the same age.

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I think the Browns thought because they had raised their kids in such an open way and put emphasis on education and because they are all so smart, they would finish their education before getting married. I guess they didn't take into account some of them would be just like them - minus the polygamy - so far. 

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Guess Robyn's purity speech really impacted the girls and that's why they're wanting to get married young hahaha. Weren't Kody and Meri the same exact age as Mykelti and Tony when they got married?

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"Weren't Kody and Meri the same exact age as Mykelti and Tony when they got married?"

....and look at Kody and Meri now. :(

Marriage is hard work and I think Mykelti and Tony are awfully naive.

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Since they both have jobs and if they don't rush into having kids, they may have a shot, but they have a learning curve for sure. From Tony's comment about taking a loan out against the house, I wonder if he thinks Kody is going to partially support them? I wonder how much the kids know about their financial situation.

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I think the Browns thought because they had raised their kids in such an open way and put emphasis on education and because they are all so smart, they would finish their education before getting married. I guess they didn't take into account some of them would be just like them - minus the polygamy - so far.

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BINGO! It's all about TLC footing the bill, and negotiating that took time. I'll never believe otherwise.

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No no no. What's ridiculous is postponing a MARRIAGE (not just the wedding) because your sister got engaged first. What's ridiculous is thinking that joyous events are somehow less so if there's two of them. What's ridiculous is the expectation of brides and grooms to reserve an entire block year for their wedding. They get a day, not a year. You actually expect Mykelti or anyone to now be delayed in having kids by a year? What if several years down the line these girls end up getting pregnant at the same time? Should one have an abortion or an emergency premature c section because apparently some people can't share the spotlight? Absurd. If they're really right for each other, yes or course they COULD wait a year or two but why? No reason. The very thought of postponing life is so silly.

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"No no no. What's ridiculous is postponing a MARRIAGE (not just the wedding) because your sister got engaged first. What's ridiculous is thinking that joyous events are somehow less so if there's two of them. What's ridiculous is the expectation of brides and grooms to reserve an entire block year for their wedding. They get a day, not a year. You actually expect Mykelti or anyone to now be delayed in having kids by a year? What if several years down the line these girls end up getting pregnant at the same time? Should one have an abortion or an emergency premature c section because apparently some people can't share the spotlight? Absurd. If they're really right for each other, yes or course they COULD wait a year or two but why? No reason. The very thought of postponing life is so silly."


I think you make some valid points here. I thought it was ridiculous the way Janelle's nose was getting out of joint because another of Kody's daughters was going to get married TWO MONTHS afterwards! What the heck?? Hasn't the excitement of the wedding faded a bit after TWO MONTHS? But I am guessing that they are just thinking that it's too much to pull together....you can't put a wedding together in a couple of months because the venue has to be chosen and booked far in advance... along with many other aspects of the wedding. (Caterers, etc.) ... so that would mean dealing with two at once and it really is a lot of stress!

Now this is just MY opinion here.... but I think Tony and Mykelti should wait because even though they are seeing stars and are "so much in love".... as many people know, sometimes once you have known a person longer you see some serious character faults or incompatibilities that would make a successful marriage quite difficult. I would guess that everyone just wants the couple to see if the flame is still burning after a few more months. If so - GREAT! If not - ALSO great - because they can both go find someone who is a better match.

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Jupiter, respectfully, I don't think you're seeing Christine's and Kody's point at all.

First, Mykelti and Tony DO NOT know each other that well as they've only been dating, at the time this was filmed which was earlier this year, for about 5 months. Mykelti also, probably purposely, has not brought Tony around to get to know the family that much. Christine is thinking of this aspect of the situation.

Secondly, Maddie had a lavish wedding back in June that, at the very least, they are making it look like that Kody paid for (it's up for debate as to whether or not TLC footed the bill for it but most--me included--think they did). Kody is looking and thinking of the financial impact of having another lavish wedding so soon after Maddie's.

Thirdly, all the sisters wives alluded to the fact that Mykelti seems to be of the mind set that she's in some sort of competition with Maddie because they are close in age.

To me, it's of no consequence when they get married because Kody did get his way and Mykelti did not get married in August and I believe they are indeed getting married this next month and another poster commented that Mykelti was given a shower last weekend.

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I think the reason they are showing all this raw conversation about Mykelti is because it is drama and that's what reality shows are made of - Sister Wives used to make up stuff like making paper boats and Christine and Kody building a rock house on the ocean, but they have true drama in their life now. That drama includes another wedding and I have no doubt TLC is paying for these weddings, so they had to show all that stuff about Mykelti. It's the deal with the devil the Browns made and Tony, the ever vigilant bank teller knows he's now making money too, so what does he care what they say?

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Well I happen to be of the mindset that the bride's family paying for 100% of the wedding is nonsense anyway, so perhaps I am taking financial burden out of the equation entirely. I'm more referring to comments that every bride should be the star of the world for several months surrounding getting married. It's nonsense. Most people get married, they're not royalty. I'm a bit biased because I'm one of those women who decided to try married around the same time as my sister with no remorse. Myself, my husband, my in laws and my parents split the cost 4 ways though. And my sister was mad because I apparently stole her thunder. And I still don't care lol. Getting married isn't about getting attention, it's about...well, getting married. My marriage was more important to me than the wedding day, by far... I just wanted to hurry up and get to the good stuff...and I'm glad I did :)

Oh and the wives thinking maybe Mykelti is trying to upstage Maddie ... utterly ridiculous. Maddie didn't invent marriage. I'm sure Mykelti would've come up with the idea all on her own.

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I'm a bit biased because I'm one of those women who decided to try married around the same time as my sister with no remorse. Myself, my husband, my in laws and my parents split the cost 4 ways though. And my sister was mad because I apparently stole her thunder. And I still don't care lol. Getting married isn't about getting attention, it's about...well, getting married. My marriage was more important to me than the wedding day, by far... I just wanted to hurry up and get to the good stuff...and I'm glad I did :)

I don't get it all. I don't understand how is getting married 2 months later stealing her sister's thunder. You're a bride for a "day". Then it's open season on any special occasion or celebration. If it's too soon and all the parents feel they have too much to do then they should have thought about that before having so many kids! Heck, they have enough helpers to pull off a wedding a week!

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Well for one you maybe only a bride for one day but some weddings take months to plan and organize. Seeing that Maddie doesnt live in Vegas, Kody and the wives have to travel to look at venues, taste cakes, taste food, or more less anything. Maddies wedding doesnt look like its going to be a small thing, so I can understand why they might feel the way they do.

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Considering Mykelti is only 19 years old, has only been seeing tony for 5 months, and has a history of making spur of the moment rash decisions and not following through on them, it seems like waiting a year or so would be the smart thing to do.

There is nothing wrong with parents asking their daughters to wait for a time between weddings- especially when the parents are paying for it ( I realize TLC could be paying). Planning a wedding can be all consuming, and emotionally as well as financially exhausting. I think it is immature and selfish for Mykelti to even bring it up such a short time before Madison's wedding, and expect the family to put on a wedding just a few short months afterwards. Tony's entitled, immature comment about Kody taking out a home equity loan to pay for their wedding speaks volumes.

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Well if they're practicing the tradition of the bride's family paying for all (which I think is crap but I think most things this family does is wrong so oh well,) then you have a point. Financial burden is real. However, when it comes to the comments about attention and making it special and not upstaging her sister, personally I think it's immature and selfish to rain on someone's parade just because they announced their engagement a little later.

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We will have to agree to disagree then. Maddie and Caleb are obviously very much in love, and they planned for a very special day. As corny as some might think it is, some girls dream their whole lives about their wedding day- and if Mykelti thought at all about anyone else's feelings she would have let Maddie bask in the attention of her special time and brought up the subject of her own marriage afterwards. Mykelti seems thirsty for attention, and full of grandiose plans and ideas that she is ill equipped to follow through on.

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Madison has had nearly a year of spotlight. Of wedding plans, and dress shopping, bridal showers and more. What a load of bs that it us stealing her thunder if a one is an attention hogging brat it is Madison. She can't expect her siblings to put their life on hold for a year, more than a year, so she can be queen. All the winging about mykeltis age. Mykeltis is seven months younger, meaning she was only two months younger when engaged. Honestly I would be angry that my family thinks and tells the world I am such s brat I would plan my wedding just to ruin dome one else's. They actually insinuated she would be so rude as to plan it a week before Madison's. Two months later is not stealing any thunder. Most of Mandy wedding planning long done. Bridal showers and other events for mykelti would be after Madison.

Grow up Madison, and your ,other, you are bride for a day. You have how many siblings, you don't get to put their lives on hold for a year so you can be a queen.

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I don't think Madison cared, it was the parents and logistically almost impossible. Mykelti certainly wants a wedding like Maddison's, so how do they do that in that timeframe?

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The Brown's obviously know their children better than any viewers, and when they said Mykelti makes flakey choices and tries to compete with Maddie I believed them. It all fits. Getting married is supposed to be for life, and Mykelti doesn't seem ready to be making those kinds of decisions yet. Obviously she is over 18, and can legally marry without parental consent but her parents are right to voice their concerns. In fact, they didn't object nearly enough.

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Madison didn't say a word about it that I've seen or heard, why are you bashing her? As for the parents, I understand their feelings completely. Planning a wedding is stressful, trust me I know. My husband and I planned our entire wedding ourselves and it wasn't nearly the grandiose affair that Madison's is. Everything went smooth as silk but it was still a stressful time.


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Not sure if your comment was directed at me because I didn't bash Maddie at all. Christine said Mykelti has tried to compete with Madison in the past and it seems like suddenly wanting to get married so closely to Maddie may be rooted in that.

Our daughter got married a few years ago and we put on a wedding and reception for her. It was wonderful and heartfelt but also stressful- financially and emotionally. We knew our daughter's fiancée for a long time, and wholeheartedly agreed with them getting married. Advising our kids as they enter into adulthood and helping them make smart choices for their future is so important, but it's not a popularity contest- I feel the Brown's did Mykelti a disservice by not speaking up more about their concerns.

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I was replying to maya and her diatribe against Maddie.


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Okie dokie- sorry!! 😉

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If I were planning my wedding and my sister suddenly, out of the blue, announced that not only was she getting married to a guy she has only known a short time, (and that the family barely knows) but that her wedding was to be around the same time as mine, I would be furious.

However, Maddie gave no indication that it bothered her at all.

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Then you need to get over yourself, gain some perspective and be over the moon happy that your sister found the same happiness you did.

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Sorry Jupiter but your complete lack of concern for your sister's feelings is a bit sad. To say that you don't care that she was upset is tactless. There is nothing wrong with someone wanting to enjoy their wedding time with family and not have the family's time and attention pulled away by another. I am surprised that someone would not understand that.


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In a normal sized family it might be ok to be upset but with 18 kids events/weddings are going to sometimes overlap and happen around the same time.

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I think the problem is they are very close together. Most of the time at the end of planning your wedding is the busiest and most stressful time since you are trying to make sure everything is done and in place, but Mykelti wanting a wedding 2 months after Maddys, it would mean they would have to focus all their attention on Mykelti's wedding to start to plan it. I understand its such a big family, but waiting 4 more months to get married is a big difference. That means they can finish one wedding before starting to other and then they can focus all there attention on making her wedding great.

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How come everyone in the world understands this except Mykelti?

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And Jupiter 5555

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