I might have missed it.... but has anyone mentioned the fact that the reason Meri might have felt unloved and unwanted and was suckered into the catfish scam was because Kody divorced her? Yeah yeah, it was so that Kody could adopt the kids. But even knowing that doesn't mean there aren't emotions involved.
shareIt was Meri's idea to get divorced, not Kody's. I don't think she thought it through before she made her decision, but it really falls on her. Meri seems like the person when she's dealing with something instead of talking about it and askig people for help she shuts people out and she pulls back from people. Even when they are asking whats wrong, she will say nothing, I have a feeling she didnt think about how much the divorce would be on her emotionally and then when it did, instead of leaning on the family she shut them all out.
shareI don't think it was that one thing, but the divorce had to bother her, especially if she and Kody were already having problems.
shareI think that was part of it but not the defining factor. Yes, it was Meri's idea for her and Kody to get a divorce so he could adopt Robyn's kids. But at the time this took place there were other things involved. Meri has only one child and that child had left home for college. In Meri's particular situation(polygamist marriage), she felt very alone because she doesn't have Kody there all the time and apparently isn't all that close with the rest of her sister wives. Then there's the part that she wanted more kids and couldn't have them and Kody didn't want more with her (my take on what I saw on the show) so he shot down Robyn being a surrogate when she offered. Bottom line, at the time, Meri was an emotional mess and, really, still is.
shareThen there's the part that she wanted more kids and couldn't have them and Kody didn't want more with her (my take on what I saw on the show) so he shot down Robyn being a surrogate when she offered. Bottom line, at the time, Meri was an emotional mess and, really, still is.She didn't want more kids. That was for the show. Way back in season two when they were almost still in the real world she told Kody she didn't want any more kids. Meri just couldn't handle the changes brought about due to Robyn coming into the family and being on TV. share
But when Robyn became pregnant with Solomon, Meri had a change of heart.
shareWe have no idea why Meri was infertile and I'm not sure she does. However, if Meri wanted to become pregnant over the years, there were things they could have done and if they did those things which we have no knowledge of, then they knew Meri couldn't get pregnant again. If it was a case of Meri not being able to carry a pregnancy which we know is not true because she did have one pregnancy, then maybe surrogacy would be an option. However, it sounds like it might be a problem with her egg production. I know people are having babies at 50, but what they have to go through to do that is torture. Organically, the chances of getting pregnant over 40 are 15% and that is because the number of eggs we have decrease dramatically. For them to embark on that, if possible, would be a daunting time consuming VERY EXPENSIVE journey - one they were never going to do.
shareToo bad Meri didn't have a harem of 4 men to try and get her pregnant. Maybe another guy's sperm would have worked better with her. She did have one child so who knows what her fertility issues were?
She was the legal wife on Kody's insurance for decades, I wonder if they thought about doing real fertility treatments years ago?
Too bad Meri didn't have a harem of 4 men to try and get her pregnant.I would have laughed if Meri got pregnant by a man other than the Kodester after trying to get pregnant with him. share
That would have been hilarious. I've known a few people who couldn't get pregnant or get someone pregnant with one significant other but were able to conceive with a different partner later on. It's weird how that works sometimes.
shareLet's see.....hmmmm...so Meri's vaginal fluids are deadly to Kody's little swimmers....yep that could explain years of infertility.
I wonder what their mailman looked like 22 years ago?
I might have missed it.... but has anyone mentioned the fact that the reason Meri might have felt unloved and unwanted and was suckered into the catfish scam was because Kody divorced her? Yeah yeah, it was so that Kody could adopt the kids. But even knowing that doesn't mean there aren't emotions involved.
Yes, I certainly feel she felt unloved and unwanted. Losing her legal wife status to the younger, thinner wife took it's toll as well. I think being legal wife meant more to Meri than she realized. I wonder if offering to divorce Kody so he could adopt Robyn's kids was really her idea? On screen it looked like it was, but now I'm wondering if maybe it was a storyline cooked up for the show and she regrets doing it.
Meri's problems may have something to do with Robyn but they started long before that - all you have to do is look at how she changed physically. That started during the 2nd season of the show.
shareDidn't I hear on this board that Kody and Robyn went on a honeymoon or trip of some kind after the wedding. On the show he made it seem and said that it was just paperwork. I could understand if he took a family trip with Robyn and her kids but I thought I read he just took Robyn. That couldn't have felt good to Meri.
shareHe and Robyn went to Hawaii before the divorce and marriage and as far as I know, it was just them and not any kids, but I'm not sure. It became public when someone noticed where Kody's tweets were coming from, then Robyn defended it by saying she used her household money to pay for it.
shareI heard that too and Kody was like it's paper only business yet Robyn's face said a lot more. I think now all the legalities are worked out he should divorce Robyn and remarry meri or marry janelle.
shareSee I think and I know many chat boards have said it Kody prefers Robyn and makes things all about her. I think when she came in that opened up a lot of issues and his preference and favoring her then her having two kids on top of it just upset each other wife in different ways... I sort of think kody told meri in private this is best for family and made it look like it was her idea. I think now that the adoption is final he should legally divorce Robyn and either remarry meri or jannell. I personally have a feeling abt Robyn and the adoption is done so if it doesn't matter on paper why not go back to the way it was or janell since she has been married in faith longer than Robyn.
shareKody can't divorce Robyn or it will look like they were trying to deceive the state of Nevada.
shareReally? because people get married in Las Vegas and get divorced days, weeks, months later. They have been married about a year. I don't see how it would like any deception at all. I just think it should go back the way it was now or let Jannelle be the legal wife since she has been "married" in faith for way longer than Robyn. If it is just paper and means nothing this shouldn't be a big deal.
shareThe only reason they got married was so Kody could adopt the children. Maybe they could get away with a divorce after a year if they weren't on TV, but they are on TV so I think if they got a divorce there would be some ramifications. But you are right about paper meaning nothing to them, so there is no reason to change it as there was for him to marry Robyn.
sharenot really. I know it would be fine. If that was the case one could say they defrauded the state to get the kids adopted because they are on tv and called it a business transaction. So technically anything other than that could be considered a lie on his & Meri's divorce records (divorcing for any reason other than to allow Kody to marry another wife). It depends who wants to spend the time and stretch it. I worked in a court and I know how all that works. Anyway my point is, the legals are done the kids are his, put things back the way they were or marry a wife who has been there longer legally. There is more to this.
sharenot really. I know it would be fine. I worked in a court and I know how all that works.So it's OK with courts that people get married just to adopt someone's kids and then get a divorce? share
That was not at all what I was saying. I was saying I know it's okay to get a divorce regardless how long you have been married. People do it every single day! But thanks for twisting my words. I tried to be nice about the comment you saying that it would look defrauding. They have said on national TV this is the only reason why. So they have admitted their intentions. If the right person wanted to prosecute they could. Most likely they won't. Anyway- they CAN get divorced and it would not be defrauding at all. But if you want to say defrauding how about what everyone else says about them taking from the welfare system, reduced & free lunches? That could be considered defrauding. Maybe they are even receiving support towards housing? Section 8? Who knows... probably getting WIC for the ones under 4. Thing is they could easily divorce and if Robyn wasn't the preferred wife or the one that matters he should divorce her and let one of the other wives be the legal wife now. They have all done their time. You have indicated they all have wills and specifics on who gets what but wills can be successfully contested. There is so much to this that they are not thinking and really the topic wasn't that. I mentioning concerns associated with it and it has turned into this. Anyway I don't go seeking arguments online, I am merely saying they haven't really shown they know how the system works and what is at stake when someone wants to be a greedy jerk in the bunch. Maybe they do and don't display it but I don't know because they are not my BFF'S. I don't care of their lifestyle and at first I was like I can see some benefits but I would never do it. However, Robyn came in and everything went downhill and that got me thinking of all the legalities that are out there they probably are not thinking of. I am not a Robyn fan because the forced her down my throat for too many seasons and made it appear she was the favorite. The Legal wedding her smug look and then Hawaii trip.. It just isn't fair to the others and I have concerns for the other wives.
shareI just reposted what you wrote and asked a question.
The Legal wedding her smug look and then Hawaii trip.Robyn & Kody went to HI before the divorce/marriage happened.
Anyway I don't go seeking arguments onlineWho is arguing?
I think in theory Meri agreed with getting the divorce so Kody could marry Robyn and adopt her kids. But that little insecure voice inside of her felt like she was shoved aside, and she felt unloved and unappreciated. Meri's identity as first wife and legal wife may have been more important to her than even she realized.
shareyes so now the legal things are worked out remarry her legally and put things back in place.
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