I love children. That being said, I love that I don't have them. I honestly don't see the benefit of having children, it's so hard on any of your personal relationships and it's constant noise and responsibility.
Can anyone give me some perspective on why I should want them? I'm 33.
I'm 35...sorry can't help you :-)
shareThe person who wrote this doesn't know anything about having kids, much less what it does to relationships. She should stick to what she knows.
sharedelmoki, I always find comments like that quite ironic, as we are all the children of parents. It's not like we have no frame of reference whatsoever...
...perhaps we're just a little more honest about it.
There's a massive difference between being the child and being a parent yourself - massive
shareDismissing the experiences of children growing up is offensive.
If people have had a less-than-perfect upbringing, or even those who have had a good upbringing but have experienced family pain, is it not relevant to the discussion about whether or not to have kids?
Some people have issues with anxiety and depression and don't have kids because it's the ultimate thing to be anxious and depressed about...and there's plenty of examples of kids that have been messed up by one or both of their parents being anxious and/or depressed.
It's almost like I love kids too much to have them. I hate where the world is going and feel that I can leave more behind for my niece and nephews when I die if I don't have children, rather than bring another child into the world, with all of the anxiety and stress that comes with it, to provide for and ensure their future...including financial future.
There's enough kids on this planet who's parents have done a pretty crappy job...I'd prefer to try and help those kids to find a way out of the situation they just happened to be born into. That's what we need more of, not more kids on the Earth.
I basically raised 2 nephews and that just made me sure that i don't need that kind of burden in my already hard life. So I don't understand why would anyone burden them self with a kid, ok I kind of get it when You are past Your prime and You realize that life have no meaning what so ever and You can't handle all the free time You have because You'll start thinking well than You have a baby, it's like joining the army so You wouldn't think about Your ex girlfriend, get Your mind of the poison thoughts, that's all there is.
shareYes I tend to agree. I was heavily involved in the raising of my cousins (two boys), and I think it really opened my eyes, from a young age, to what raising a kid would be like, and it just doesn't seem that appealing.
Whilst I get that it must be pretty amazing to bring life into the world and nurture it to adulthood, I also have seen, first hand, how damn hard it can be and the regret some people feel for having children.
I'm an aunty now, and I love it, but it also takes me back to what I experienced with my cousins. I love kids, but I am more than happy to hand them back at the end of the day and go back to my far more relaxed life.
I knew I never wanted them at the age of 12, and am very happy I was so perceptive at such a young age.
shareYou're lucky that it was such a definitive process. I labored over it for years and years.
Anyway, I've come out the other side and embraced my life as child-free...and I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders...and an intense sense of freedom :-).
I share the same views as you, mmitsos and leishayoung!!
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