What I don't like is that if another black girl had said that no one would even be batting an eye or they would even be applauded. So why is it wrong that she did? I don't find it racist at all. She clearly doesn't think she is superior to blacks because she wants to be one of us so bad. It might have been inappropriate, but not racist at all. This is why some people don't take racism seriously because people can find it in even the smallest things. If a girl's edges is rough then a girls edges is rough.
Here's the thing...It was plain ignorant of her to say and Yes, I've heard someone say the same thing to another reality tv personality (If I'm not mistaken, Claudia Jordan said the same thing to Nene on RHOA) and no big deal was made of it and I think that that may have been where she got the idea and the nerve to make that statement. She probably thought it was something cute and witty to say. She probably also gathered that since Claudia, who's half white, said it and got away with it then it must not be a big deal in our community. However, the problem and what she might not get, is that just because you use ebonics when you talk, you sleep with black men, you like to rap and probably have a few black friends, that doesn't make you black. It's offensive for someone on the outside to come in and make a negative comment about something that doesn't belong to them e.g., I don't care how close you think you are to your best friend, there are somethings that she can say about her kids that you can't or your friend can say something like "I hate my hair; I can never get it to look nice" but if you say to that same friend "Girl, I hate your hair; It never looks nice" then you would be crossing the line because that's for her to say, not you.
Me, personally, I think the comment "You need to put some beeswax on them edges because they looking rough" or whatever she said was ignorant no matter who it came from but coming from another black woman, although it's ignorant, it's no more of an insult to me than it is to herself and her own racial background because if she's black then 9 out of 10 times, her edges are naturally thick and kinky as well. As far as Mariah Lynn, a non black woman, it's offensive because I don't care if she grew up with nothing but black people, without another white person within a hundred mile radius and ate nothing but soul food and watched BET, that still doesn't give her any right to get so comfortable as to make that type of statement, not only on tv but in a room full of other black women. It's obvious that she hasn't fully embraced the culture. She's just cherry picking from the black culture to get what she wants out of it and the rest is garbage. If she really embraced the culture, like she's pretending to do, then she would know that most black people's hair texture is naturally thick and kinky, not "rough" and the only reason some black woman are able to get smoother edges is to put chemicals on it or do other harmful things to their natural hair texture. Naturally, most of us, as black woman, have a thicker and kinkier hair texture than a white woman, Latino woman or an Asian woman, etc. and there is nothing wrong with it and nothing to be ashamed of. That is one of our natural features that distinguishes us as a race and it's no worse or no less beautiful than any other race of people. It's just different and it's disrespectful to point out something that's naturally different about another race of people and then insult it. She was basically saying that black women's natural hair texture is not acceptable and in order for hers [Moe's] to be acceptable, she [Moe] needs to do something to her hair or edges to make them look less like that of a natural black woman and more like hers [Mariah Lynn] a white girl because her [Mariah's] white hair texture is better and more acceptable and the texture of Moe's natural hair is something to shame and throw shade at.
I woke up this way...
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