Or at least it's attributed to him. Nevertheless, it speaks about situations like in this film: "If you love two people at the same time, choose the second, because if you really loved the first one, you wouldn't have fallen for the second." What you think?
shareWhile I agree with that quote, I don't think it's true in the case of this film. I think that the main character in this movie needed to work on herself before she could have a fulfilling relationship with anyone.
shareI'd say you're correct. All things considered, she wasn't ready for a relationship.
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Agree with your first and second grafs.
As for the third: Seems to me that if you love somebody in that way, enough to make a lifetime commitment, nobody else is occupying any "love" space in that same category, because you're not going to let it. You've pre-obviated all other possibilities. There are no other roads, because you've chosen it to be that way.
On the principle that even the antireligious (I'm not) can see some merit in some statements made in some religious texts, I'm reminded of the statements from the Old Testament: "Rejoice in the wife of your youth," and "Your desire shall be toward your husband/wife," or whatever the exact words were. Both are interesting in that they imply an act of will, a decision that is made and stuck to. What happens in this film is so devastating partly because it's so realistic that it's almost banal: Margot drifts into an affair that creates massive heartache and destruction that she doesn't even mean. She's not a mean-spirited or terrible person. She's just careless, indecisive, and subject to the myths that are entailed in mass-culture notions of "love." But like the poor woman who leans over to catch a falling coffee cup in her car, crosses the centerline, and kills a family of five, the consequences are still there no matter how evil the initial intent.
Another thing from the Bible that bears mentioning along those lines is the idea of "sin" as "hamartia" in Greek, or missing the mark -- the "forgive them, they don't know what they're doing" thing. (I'm working from long-ago memory, but I'm thinking the word also applied to an archer missing the target.) That's more what we have here, just somebody who, for lack of understanding and commitment, for not being clear about her choices and sticking to them, ends up creating massive pain and loss. So it is in real life. Which is one reason, I think, why this film is so excruciating to watch, and so worthwhile.
I think this is why it's best not to get advice on such matters from Johnny Depp, or anybody else to whom we attribute some kind of "wisdom," or whatever, because they're actors or celebrities.
See the other response in this thread...
I disagree, usually they choose the second and then regret it
she could've been turned on by Daniel and not being in love, she could've been so caught into the beginning of a new relationship that is more shinny than life after 5 years of marriage
and I believe a person could actually love two ppl in the same time, this saying is like when someone says I can only love once in my life.
"It is never about what happened, it is only how you look at it!"