Confused about the scenes with Daniel....re; the threesomes

They were real.

It just didn't fit into the full story of them "supposedly" being so connected and in love.

I don't think the movie was about Daniel and Margo being connected and in love. She was afraid of being alone. She was feeling detached from her husband and she gravitated towards someone else.

BUT, the loving husband situation wasn't so perfect either.

None are. That was more the point of the story. The grass isn't always greener. Margo was confused, and scared and she was looking for a fantasy. She wanted more, which she got, and that ended in much the same way. I think the threesomes are a reflection of this. As the passion was dying out, they were looking for other ways to recapture it. But all ended the same way.

And the ending, with her back on that carnival ride????

She was finally caught in the middle. Her worst fears realized. She was alone and full of regret, but what we see is she has conquered her fears and has accepted herself. The ending is pretty hopeful.

WTF? Sorry, this movie left me completely baffled, cold, and wondering what the message was. Thoughts?

Personally? I thought it was incredible. It's so rare we see a piece of honest cinema like this. It was just so beautiful, and raw and insightful. I don't think we're supposed to judge Margo for what she does. She is a flawed person, but a real one. As we look at her life, and her decisions we are able to look at our own decisions.

It was a rare work of art.

I'm pretty sure the message is that no relationship is perfect and everyone can screw up.

Relationships usually don't break down because of something terrible it is usually the little crap that no one else would notice like getting bored.

I think they were meant to show that Margot and Daniel's connection was weakening, and they were trying to get it back by spicing up their sex life. If you notice the clip shown after the threesomes is them having sex alone fully clothed and neither of them seems to be into it at all. Then the clip after that one shows them watching TV in the area their bed was, the center of the room.

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The montage depicting her life with Daniel was in the character's "real" timeline. The sensual pleasures depicted were so extreme because that was presumably what she sensed was missing from her life with her merely loyal, merely loving, merely sensitive, available and all-around good-catch of a husband.

The filmmaker is giving us a platonic model through which to explore the question of "happiness" as an unbound quantity. The movie is less narrative than abstract in this sense and it catches the audience off-guard. At the point that the soon-to-be ex-husband apologizes for calling her mean names during the break-up montage, I myself was livid at what appeared to be a sick, female fantasy about how a man ought to react to being made a cuckold. Mid-point through the life-with-Daniel montage, however, it became clear that these characters never resided in a scenario of fictional realism, but rather one of philosophical premise.

I feel the same way the OP did upon the scenes showing not one but TWO threesomes...it was just unexpected is all...I guess it shows the passage of time and the lengths they went to keep this fresh...but still...unexpected (and HOT I will say).

The thing that got me on her ride alone is that she was SMILING...she was HAPPY. Maybe she finally grew up.

I still felt so bad for Rogen's character, ture he might've neglected her, etc, but that was just downright COLD.

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No confusion. It's a fantasy. Because she is weak she gives in to fantasy instead of living. Real life. If yer willing to yoho a bum you can then daydream " what if". Meanwhile the husband (a wimp) just deals with it as if it's okay. Most unsporaling people.

I think the writer(s) were confused. Note that this is not a true story, it is just something that a writer or some writers made up.

Note that when it came time for her to tell her husband some critical news, the writers were unable to write the lines; they left what was said to our imagination. Fortunately I was able to rewind, otherwise I would have been really confused.

I sure do not understand the part at the end; the part where the community gets together and the little girl says "now it is time for me to go" or something similar. I do not understand the relevance of the big event, plus it was another instance where I was confused and I had to rewind.

I think that one important message is that there is no master manual to love and happiness, it is confusing for many people, and many of us must figure things our for ourselves. It is unfortunate that so many people expect other people to live with a decision, even if it was a bad decision. Sometimes people do the best they can to make the right decision but society does not have all the answers so people of course make bad decisions. It is unfortunate that people are so judgmental of others that choose to leave behind them a bad decision.

Yes, the part near the end with the threesomes is bizarre and spoils the story. So strange! I think the writers are confused about what they really wanted to say.