Tyler isn't attracted to Cate anymore

I truly feel that Tyler breaking up with Cate would be the best thing for her. It would light a fire under her ass, just like it did me to get better. Some motivation since it's clear Nova isn't enough motivation for her. Some people get way too comfortable in a relationship. Cate definitely assumes Tyler isn't going anywhere. Im sure the thought of him leaving her crosses her mind but sge definitely diesnt truly believe he will leave since they've been together forever.



She convinces herself that Tyler is telling the truth when he tells her that she is beautiful. Even though she deep down knows she looks bad, when your man is telling you that you're beautiful, it's easier to believe so. She thinks that since she already has hin, hes not going anywhere and loves her for her, not her looks. She's too comfortable and that's the mistake many people make.



Just because a person loves you for you, doesn't mean that they don't have to find you ATTRACTIVE. I mean really. No matter how much they love you, thT doesn't mean they are attracted to you anymore. It's not just about her weight gain. It's about the fact that she completely let herself go. She dresses grumpy as hell. Lirerally like an old grandma who shops at Walmart. No offense to
Old grandmas, I think a lot even dress better than her. She doesn't wear a stitch of makeup or do her hair. And ok, thatd be ok, the whole natural look, but if she was dressing nicely. Thr fact that she does neither along with hwr weight gain simply makes her look AWFUL. Lets be real, she's not exactly good looking to begin with. Add that to the fact that she does NOTHING. Literally lays around like a lazy slug with zero motivation, zero energy, nit doing anything productive.



What can possibly be attractive about that? People are attracted to health fir a reason. It's built in us to want a healthy and active person. She has NOTHING going for her.



She doesn't even self educate enough to hold interesting conversation thats new and exciting for the person whi has been with her for over ten years. It's just the same old bull sh!t. Nothing new. Nothing exciting. Completely predictable.



And GOD FORBID Tyler tells her ANYTHING about his OBVIOUSLY waining attraction to her. He will be labeled as a douchebag. The poor guy can't even say he doesn't want a wife who is a heifer. People on this board acted like he was such a douche fir saying that but he was simply stating what most people think as well. Nobody wants a heifer. He can't tell her that there is a lot of food on her plate without people calling him a douche. Meanwhile the girl probably stays up at night crying to him about her weight but if he tries to steer her in the right direction, he gets crucified.



He can tell her hes losing his attraction towards her due to her not doing sht and he will be labeled insensitive to her "mental illness." He can say he's losing attraction to her because she's gained weight and he will be labeled a douche because she had a baby and how dare he judge her body after having a baby over a year ago and also be told that people shouldn't judge people's weight abd hes an ass for doing so.



This poor guy is literally stuck watching his wife completely let herself go and get diabetes and hes not allowed to say ANYTHING because he will be CRUCIFIED for speaking the truth about his feelings. Hes not attracted anymore and that's OKAY to say. It happens. But no, he has to watch her let herself go while she deludes herself into thinking hes still attracted to her because he tells her she's beautiful to make her feel better and to make sure viewers don't label him a dick.



I know I sound really shallow but I hope peopke can see it's more than JUST her looks. Yes, looks DO matter. Sorry but it's the truth. However, if Cate said that she found herself beautiful and is happy with her looks, maybe it would be a different story. However, the fact that she is on the verge if getting diabetes shows that she has to become healthy regardless of how she feels about her looks. This is also about her insane laziness.



What can Tyler POSSIBLY be attracted to now? I think that in the beginning, he was young and she was spunky and actually tried more with her looks. He also could connect to her sad back story and admire her for being so strong through it and also feel like the hero in terms of helping her. Ge was attracted to the fact that she could get past adversity and have fun with her as well.



Now that their families are in much better places, it simply sounds like the same exact woe is me story, the same tune on the violin. That violin's tune being that catelynn is the perpetual victim. And now she can't face adversity. She isn't trying to move past anything. She's using everything as a crutch to not do sh!t and put everything on his shoulders. She isn't fun anymore. She's hust bringing him down.



When they were younger he truly believed in their dreams and that they would accomplish something fantastic and do something truly meaningful with their lives. Now he must see it for what it was- a simple fairytale they told themselves and ESPECIALLY on Catelynn's end. She will most likely never amount to more than what she is now. The girl who was strong, destined to do so much with her life, the woman he thought she would become, was simply a dream and that dream will never come true.



Im not saying Tyler is this great catch. Hes also lazy and unmotivated to do more than what he's doing now. However, I truly believe that Catelynn brings him down. It becomes easy to let your partner rub off on you and its clear that even her depression is rubbing off on him and making him depressed. I truly believe that away from her, he would do more with his life. Single, I believe he would do more activities with friends as opposed to just staying home because his wife can't get her ass out of bed.



I believe he would eventually work like maybe in construction or something else with mtv. I don't see him going to school but I see him doung SOMETHING. The reason being because he doesn't seem CONTENT just sitting home and not doing anything whereas Catelynn seems very content laying on the couch and using her perpetual victim act to ensure she doesn't have to move. I do think catelynn is far more of the problem than he is. I understand that he's a grown ass man and that if he really wanted to, he would do more.



But we do have to take into account that being as co-dependent as they are to eachother and being together so long does rub off on a person. I said I do believe he would do more if he were single. I also believe that if he were to get with a woman (after being single for a long time because he needs to learn how to be alone) who was energetic, motivated and actually does something with her life, that it would motivate Tyler as well. Actually being attracted to the woman he is having sex with would put a pep in his step.



Cate and Ty bring out the WORST in each other. Ty would be much better off with a woman who wanted MORE from him than sitting around and not doing sht with her because that's what she loves to do. A woman who tells him she's attracted to go-getters and such. Cate would also benefit from a guy who does that. Peoole who hold them ACCOUNTABLE. Sure, Ty's mom does that but it's different coming from a significant other. A person to light a fire under their ass.


Cate and Ty make it too easy for each other and the only reason I'm putting more of the blame on Cate is because it seems like Tyler is actually sick of it and isn't content just doing nothing anymore whereas Catelynn definitely loves it no matter what she says about depression. If Tyler loved it, he wouldn't look as miserable as he does and throw her hints about it. The guy is clearly fed up with the lifestyle.



Now maybe im wrong and hes only fed up with the fact that shes let herself go and doesn't do sht which leaves all the responsibilities on his shoulders and he would be completely content sitting on his ass and doing nothing as long as she actually carried her weight in terms of the responsibilities and started taking care of herself. The fact that he's working on a new show that I assume requires him to do more than just film on his couch and that he has been working on the show might show he wants to do more.



I noticed this before but saw it even more now that I'm re-watching the episode while they're replaying this season, there's a scene in the first episode of this season where Tyler is sitting in the booth of some restaurant and Catelynn walks in wearing a huge shawl that makes her look even bigger. I mean she looks pretty huge in it and as she's sitting down, just for a second Tyler looks at her up and down and he has this face of disgust towards her. It was so fast and he didn't blatantly make the face but you can see it in his eyes and a little bit with his mouth turnt up to his nose.



It was so quick and not obvious but I caught it and re-watched it and it is definitely the face of disgust. She sits down and before anything is said, her eyes are welled up with tears. You can clearly see it in her that she is fighting back tears because she just feels so ugly and fat thus the reason she is wearing the shawl to begin with, to try to cover it, as she's sitting across from her man who has a nice haircut and nice leather jacket on, looking put together. Not saying Tyler is hot or anything but he does always look put together. That one scene right there spoke volumes to me.



I'm sorry but most guys aren't going to be attracted to a woman who is eating an entire plate of general tsos chicken with an egg roll and soda, thus showing that shes a glutton while she cries about being overweight and just keeps gaining more. I wouldn't be attracted to a guy who eats like that all the time neither, even if he doesn't gain weight because being unhealthy isn't attractive to me. And you know what? That's okay. Now is it hypocritical to say that Tyler isn't attracted to her for eating the same exact stuff he eats and it's different because she is morbidly obese while he isn't? Absolutely. But the morbidly obese part does honestly make it worse.



Tyler isn't attracted to Catelynn anymore. And I don't blame him or demonize him for feeling that way. What is on the inside absolutely matters most. But I'm not going to act like looks don't matter when you want a healthy sex life and want to be physically attracted to your partner. Catelynn needs to stop deluding herself into believing Tyler's compliments and that because they've been together for so long that he will never leave her. If she looks in the mirror and sees she doesn't look good then what can she possibly think he is thinking?



She is convincing herself that even though she doesn't look good anymore, that his love for her will keep him there. She simply hasn't learned the lesson that with a lot of men, love won't keep them there once their dick can't get hard anymore at the sight of her. They'll give you chances and time and believe what you say when you say you're going to get healthy and lose weight but after a while their patience runs out.



It's a perfect storm brewing. Tyler hasnt experienced sex with different girls who are insanely hot. He hasn't been with anyone but her and curiosity about what it's like with someone else is natural. He hasn't played the field and gotten it out of his system like many of us have. Catelynn has completely let herself go. The question isn't if, its when. When is he going leave her and move on to someone better looking and who has more going for themselves than being a lazy slug?



Hopefully not when he's having a midlife crisis with more kids added on which in turn will hurt more people. If catelynn doesn't get her sht together, he needs to do it sooner rather than later. At some point he has to put his feelings before hers. His happiness before hers.



I truly hope that she gets better and they can get back on track. My heart broke for her in that scene I described because I know what it's like to feel so ugly that you want to cry when you're out in public. But at some point you just can't feel bad for a person who doesn't do anything to change it and just keep playing the victim card. Tyler leaving her might light that fire under her ass and give her motivation to get better and eventually help her meet someone better for her as well. They're both toxic to eachother and bring the worst out in each other.



It's time to either get it together or forget it forever. At this point, I don't think it's just love keeping Tyler with her. It's cowardice. He doesn't want to look like the bad guy, doesn't want to get demonized by viewers for leaving his depressed wife. But at what point do you get the strength to deal with that and put your happiness first? It's also his cowardice about leaving someone hes been with for so long and has grown codependent with. Tyler doesn't know how to be alone and surely jumping right into another relationship won't be healthy. Thats where the strength to be alone comes in.

Tyler loves Catelynn, he just isn't IN love with Catelynn.