Bryce Laspisa "Road to Nowhere" - Disappeared (2009) Discussion

[–] alyssie 9 years ago

I cringe everytime I hear a parent on this show insist they knew their kids and there is NO way they would ever do/say/think such things. As a parent i'd love to believe I know my kid inside and out, but as someone who remembers being a teen and someone who sometimes bottles things up, I know first hand that you can't tell what is going on in someone else's head and you can VERY easily hide things from your parents/family.

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[–] alyssie 9 years ago

100% agree!

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[–] jefgg 9 years ago

I also thought about the safety of Bryce driving by himself at night in an agitated state. Maybe his mother should have suggested he rent a motel room then she and his dad meet him there in the morning. I guess hindsight is 20/20.

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[–] libby2130 9 years ago

facebook link https://www.facebook.com/FINDBRYCELASPISA/

they obviously have had false leads...really sad that people do that

a 2nd link http://www.charleyproject.org/cases/l/laspisa_bryce.html

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[–] jefgg 9 years ago

The false leads are awful, but not always mean spirited. A woman reported that she saw Tiffany Daniels hitchhiking. The hitchhiker actually resembled Daniels.

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[–] mlsssmth 9 years ago

When the tow truck driver went back and he was still there hours later, as a parent I would have asked him to stay with my child while I drove there to meet them. That tow truck driver was a saint to go out of his way to help them in the first place and it would have been worth asking him for a bit more help. I was just shocked that they had so many opportunities, with the police and the driver, to have Bryce kept in one place while they hauled ass to get to their son.

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[–] libby2130 9 years ago

thanks, "myopinion" that's what I meant and I should have made my post clearer...of course there are reports of sightings where they really think it is the missing person, and they report it, and because it could be the missing person, and they are trying to help

then we have people out there who tell lies and say they saw someone when they didn't, for the attention or they have mental problems and believe it when it is not truu...ask for money or try extortion for info...those people are sick and twisted

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[–] gilroygirl 9 years ago

If my son was acting the way Bryce was I would have gone to get him. They had several opportunities to intervene and surprisingly did not. Even the two truck driver was concerned. I am sorry for these parents but I don't understand their actions.

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[–] Kenya85 9 years ago

I can't believe that his parents didn't realize that their son sitting in a parking lot for 8-9 hours wasn't alarming enough to physically go and make sure that he was ok. I even felt shocked that his mother was ok with him pulling over to some side road to sleep in the wee hours. Sadly, I believe he died that night, and his body just hasn't been found yet.

I say bless your heart a lot. It's a Southern thing 

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[–] babz12 9 years ago

It seemed like he wanted to kill himself. He sat in the rest stop parking lot for hours on end probably thinking about if he should do it and how. If he just wanted to disappear, I don't think he would have driven down that cliff because it was possible it could kill him.

But after he crashed, who knows? Maybe he did have a bad enough concussion he didn't know who he was. Maybe after he crashed he changed his mind and hitchhiked far far away. I just think his original intent was to kill himself. Why? I don't know. Maybe something horrible happened and he found no way around it. He was at the age where he could've developed schizophrenia, or maybe some other mental illness. I wonder what he supposedly wanted to talk to his parents about. It's too bad he didn't go home and talk to him before he decided to either kill himself or disappear. I guess something else could have happened in the end, but all signs point to him doing all this of his own free will.

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[–] holchie 9 years ago

I thought that, too, about it not being amnesia. He would need help, and I believe authorities would make an effort to find his relatives. He wouldn't have gotten that far from home if he was wandering around with amnesia.

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[–] thesearchforbigfoot 9 years ago

He looks kind of effeminate in the photos. I think he was gay and terrified of coming out to his parents. It explains the breakup with his girlfriend, and him telling his parents that he had something he needed to tell them. The drinking and drugs were probably a coping mechanism. I think he was stalling at the rest stop because he was afraid to tell them. He tried to kill himself, but failed. Then I think he just decided he was going to walk away from his life. This is a case of someone who doesn't want to be found.

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[–] jefgg 9 years ago

Bryce may have been gay. Notthattheresanythingwrongwiththat. Is coming out still a big deal for teens? When I was growing up in the '70s and '80s kids would frequently get beaten up if someone thought they were gay. Now being gay is practically a badge of honor. Bryce's parents were clueless but seemed like nice folks. I doubt they would have cared if Bryce is gay. Should I refer to him in the present tense or past tense? It is very sad. A young man might be deceased.

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[–] Ryan_From_RealWorld 9 years ago

The mother had it in her mind he didn't run away, despite everything that led up to it makes it seem like he did. Whenever she brought up he would never run away she would cry. She isn't looking at this logically. The kid I believe ran away, where he went and who he went with is up for discussion.

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[–] libby2130 9 years ago

maybe his parents wouldn't have cared,but what counts is if Bryce is gay, then was was HIS perception of how he would think his parents would react? we.ve come a long way, but people still get beat for being gay

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[–] Ryan_From_RealWorld 9 years ago

I don't think that's the reason (if they didn't accept him he could have walked away and not be associated with his parents) he chose to walk away regardless. I don't think it has anything to do with being gay. I think he was depressed.

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[–] GraceFromSoCal 9 years ago

When they showed the news footage of the search at Castaic Lake, I remembered seeing the story being covered on the local news when Bryce disappeared. Everything about it was so odd.

One thing I really don't get about his parents' reaction is why they let so many opportunities slip through their fingers. They lucked out MULTIPLE times as far as someone physically locating him, and each time there were CLEAR signs that something was very wrong with him, yet they did nothing to intervene. *I* would've asked the people who'd located him to PLEASE stay with him while I or my spouse hopped on a plane to get there. Or, with the tow truck driver, I might have asked him to DRIVE Bryce home and I'd pay him for his time and get him an airplane ticket to fly back...or SOMETHING...

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[–] aac7294 9 years ago

Yeah...I kept thinking why don't they get in a car and go get him? They really dropped the ball and must live with that knowledge.

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[–] holchie 9 years ago

I think he wanted to disappear. I feel bad for the parents because they obviously loved him very much, but they seemed smothering to me, especially the mother. I think he wanted to cut loose.

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[–] BetteDavis79 9 years ago

We can only speculate, but as some have mentioned it seems Bryce was struggling with something and maybe it had to do with his sexuality. He said to his mother he had a lot to tell her. Maybe his stopping and sitting in the same area had him debating what to do. He was drinking and taking pills, gave the diamonds away, etc. and it seemed to be more than just the average college kid partying type of scenario which is what I felt the parents were trying to dismiss it as.

And also saying he would never just up and leave, and he could talk to us about anything - I felt like the mother was trying to convince herself about that since she kept crying every time she talked about it. Did he really feel that way? We just don't know about people's relationships despite what is put on the TV screen. Maybe he did just walk away. Suicide is definitely possible although the body hasn't been found. This reminds me of the Lee Cutler case. He also ran away and whether he started a new life somewhere or committed suicide he obviously was unhappy about something. It's just hard to say when there is no body to be found.

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[–] XxXThePhantomsRoseXxX 9 years ago

I hate this show so much because it's so unsettling to me. But I always watch it because, alas. But the parents made me super uncomfortable. You can bet your sweet bum if I was sitting in a rest stop for 9 hours, my dad would have driven the 3 hours to come drag my ass home and check on me to see if I was alright. It seems like all these problems went ignored. Which makes me wonder if that's what lead to him wanting to take his life. Maybe he just felt ignored or unheard by his parents. I remember in Breakfast Club, Allison says her parents ignore her and it's not even questioned as being the equal to the other abuses the kids go through.

To be ignored or unheard by your parents sucks. It does because your parents are supposed to be the ones you can go to no matter what. At least that's how it is in my little world. If he felt ignored or dismissed by them or glossed over then when he had a big issue, it might have just made sense for him to want to take his own life thinking that he was totally alone in the world.

These stories always give me the spooks though. Idk why I watch. The worst one to me was the one a few years back that I think the cops were involved in and that one freaking haunts the ever loving hell out of me to this day.

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