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Why did she have sex with that guy, instead of her husband?


Wait, I'm confused...
She didn't want to have sex right then, at least not with her husband, but then she left and went to have sex with some guy, why?
If she wasn't in the mood, fine. But, if she wanted to have sex with someone, why not just do it with her husband?


I hide behind a mask


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You can't base predictable behavior as a means to judge actions of a person in that state of mind. It isn't any one answer as to why she did it. She may have done that in order to have complete control over one element of that night. I can tell you it looks that way, but someone else could have a completely different perspective as to her rationale.
She may have sat there feeling the weight of expectations all night and then in their room more expectations of her husband wanting sex. Maybe ordinarily she would want him but at that moment it feels like it is all too forced and she rejects him and all expectations of her.
I've known people capable of doing things that occurred in the film and it rang true to me.


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I would love to meet this super skank that would bang some dude other than her husband on her wedding night...we would get along just fine.

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Actually I'm sure very few women can stomach getting along with someone like you.



"Weirdness was all he cared about. Weirdness and sex and plenty to drink."

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I like you.

"He's my son and I'll break his neck any way I please!"

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The deep philosophical meaning is concealed here ;-)))

Listen to your enemy, for God is talking

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She's suffering from severe mental depression and is there not behaving logically. Nothing confusing about that, whatsoever. She didn't want to consummate the marriage, didn't want to become committed and she acted on a terrible impulse to gain some control over the situation (as another poster has suggested).

Clear eyes, full hearts, can't lose.

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I think she just realized she didn't have it in her to be married and dream of a happy future, (ie, the one in the photo, etslosh she just chose to destroy it completely.

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She wanted an immediate divorce.

"You couldn't be much further from the truth" - several

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When in a depressed state, some people do things they wouldn't normally do (as alluded to by previous posters).
It's a symptom of depression that's rarely written about.



""Everything popular is wrong."-Oscar Wilde"

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I'm really confused about all of this as well. The movie starts and she seems very happy with her new husband. Then throughout the reception/dinner, she becomes more and more strange and then just ditches her husband.

What the hell is going on? What did I miss?

If you love someone, set them free. If they come back, nobody else wanted them either.

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There is a life story before the film starts that you don't see, but where we join Justine is on her wedding night. In reality, those who suffer from depression can be very good at hiding it.

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Yes welcome to depression. Most people can hide their unhappiness well enough. Depending on the depression it can be easy to hide. I did it for years.

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throughout the reception/dinner, she becomes more and more strange


If you ask me it's because she's forced into spending time at the same table with her mother and father. I think a lot of her 'issues' stem from their dysfunctional relationship.

IIRC, her mother also battles similar mental health issues to Dunst's character - I don't know if this is stated or if that's just the impression I got, though.

Do the P-I-G-E-O-N

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I think the question you have to ask is why the hell he married her in the first place?

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