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Is It That Hard to Forgive Someone?

posted 8 years ago by disinterested_spectator
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Life is full of misunderstandings and hurt feelings, but I have never rebuffed an apology in my life. The minute someone indicates that he or she is genuinely sorry about something that happened, I find it impossible not to be forgiving. That does not mean I will let that person back into my life, for that is another thing entirely.

In other words, Nathan could have accepted Annie's apology and then said that, indeed, the night they made love was a mistake, but they could still be friends. And being “friends” need not mean socializing together on a regular basis, but only that they smile at each other and exchange a few pleasantries when they meet. The way he held a grudge against Annie for so long was a warning sign against having a relationship with him. And for what? She really did not do anything so terribly wrong. In fact, it was not even the sort of thing for which I would have expected an apology. Relationships are full of false starts, and we don't know how things will end up when we start them. On the other hand, I guess the way Annie refused to accept Helen’s apology means she is not much better than Nathan. Maybe they deserve each other. But it's going to be a rough marriage!

[–] Prelude (1443) 8 years ago

Hmm.

I've been loving Officer Rhodes, but now that I read your post, you make a really good point.

It actually IS kind of worrying that he was so permanently unforgiving of one "flouncing out" she did.

I mean, it's not like she woke up next morning and stole his wallet, trashed his house or keyed his car! All she did was get a little adamant that there's something she doesn't want to do anymore.

On the one hand he meant no harm by getting the baking things, and he genuinely thought this was a lovely way to get her back in touch with her talent in life.

On her side of things, it felt like a pushy move by someone who doesn't know here well enough to allow her to feel the way she feels about her bad experience.

She didn't handle her reaction well -- but still, like I say, it's not like she said or did something horrendous.

I think he was hurt by the part where she said the night was a mistake.

Nobody wants to hear that right after what THEY think was a great night that just might be the start of something beautiful. Rhodes seemed to feel like this. It's a knock-back for something to say "This was a mistake" and flounce out.

But at the same time you're right, he did hold onto that grudge too long, and this was disproportionate to the "crime."

There was actually quite a lot of non-acceptances of apologies in this movie.

Rhodes with Annie.

Annie with Helen.

And even Annie's friend getting married (Maya Rudolph) was cold and not really accepting when Annie apologized on the bus journey.

Nobody was very forgiving in this movie!