Save for the wacky Ninja professor affair bit, I thought the relationship of the two leads was fairly authentic for the first 90 minutes. I just thought that dopey impromptu wedding in the park thing belonged in a goofier film like, I dunno, the Muppets or something the Farrelly Brothers would do. I know it was supposed to be endearing, and make the audience happy, but it just came across as eye-rollingly cheesy to me.
shareThe movie was long and all over the place. I laughed out loud twice. It needed a quick wrap up. I liked the impromptu wedding. I was relieved there was an impromptu wedding.
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While I enjoyed the choose-your-own-adventure wedding for what it was, I was too busy being pissed off at the fact that they were getting back together in the first place. You are right, the scene would have played much better in a different movie.
shareYuuuuppp... During the WHOLE movie all I could think of was how the characters were so wrong for each other. They were so different, and also with the set up showing how difficult the 5 years were: they never did anything TOGETHER; they barely had a relationship - there were so many scenes of Violet and Tom working on their careers, above all they were both self-obsessed and selfish; they both cheated, which is unforgivable and immature, regardless of the rest of what happened.
I thought that everything building up to Violet going to catch her plane at the end was going to be more along the lines of "500 days of Summer", and the characters would realise that they had grown apart. Sure, if it wasn't for their engagement then Alex and Suzie wouldn't have got together and had kids, but they should have just accepted that, called it a win, and remained friends as far as that went.
It felt so off when Suzie and some other people at the engagement party talked about how they were 'meant for each other' when the filmed showed they were anything but. I hate compare, but having survived a long distance 3 year engagement, I would do anything for my man and we spent every spare weekend together. In this move, however, the relationship was WHACK. (And if we're meant to 'assume' they did stuff together during that time, screw that. They should have told the story better!)
The lesson I wish people would have seen more clearly in this film, however, was the one about communication. Without it, relationships are bound to falter and hit conflict bang in the face every day. Not just with partners, but with friends and family too. For the love of God, talk it out!
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I concur. I thought the ending was unrealistic and drawn out. These people were not on the same page throughout the movie and then all of a sudden they are perfect for each other at the end. I would have liked this a lot more if they had left the corny ending off.
Yeah. I think I see what Jason Segel was trying to say: don't hold out for some unrealistic perfect person or some unrealistic perfect moment in your life (because its always laughing in your face when you make plans - e.g the unexpected pregnancy storyline.) Its just, the characters had become so far apart that the connection couldn't have been re-established. Maybe if they didn't do the skits with them both moving on with different people? Poorly executed... So poorly executed.
The saddest thing, is to know that couples in worse positions than these characters still really go ahead with marriage when they should be honest with themselves for the sake of everyone's happiness and just break up. So many people IRL are obsessed with weddings and have negative associations with marriage. Its just a disaster waiting to happen :(
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What's worse is that it seemed like Tom and Violet would just end up in the exact same situation. She was offered tenure with the University of Michigan, so unless Tom carted his taco ambulance off to Michigan (where he didn't want to be and was the main reason their relationship expired was because he was incredibly unhappy in Michigan, it was a huge plot point in the movie they just skipped in the end. Not only do they just jump back into the relationship they had five years earlier and get married, but they don't really discuss their future and the problem if at all.
So Tom thinks making the sandwiches in Michigan was beneath him? But making Taco's is the fallback dream job of a chef who turned down an offer to be a head chef at a highly popular restaurant?
He was miserable with Violet during their engagement, but now that they're married we're meant to believe the exact same problems they're facing don't exist anymore because both parties acknowledged the problems but did nothing to change them? C'mon!
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He was miserable with Violet during their engagement, but now that they're married we're meant to believe the exact same problems they're facing don't exist anymore because both parties acknowledged the problems but did nothing to change them? C'mon!
Yup... the whole heavy-handedness about settling in relationships bugged me quite a bit. The plot had a feminist, smart setup then wasted it.
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