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Guys... would you keep an 'escort' as a steady girlfriend???

posted 15 years ago by maddonabox
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I liked the movie. I liked it a lot. I liked it so much that I actually felt jealous for Chris when she sold out, put all her coins on her "personology" beliefs and went "out for the weekend" with this new client.
Then I thought, if I were to meet a girl I REALLY cared for, knowing she's an escort/sophisticated hooker, would I really want her as my steady girlfriend???

I'm not trying to settle whether it's right or wrong for Chelsea to *beep* guys for money, I'm wondering how some of you guys out there would handle this.

It's 10pm and you're home alone watching the TV knowing that the girl you love so much is out there with some client, doing monster creampie shots in her.

And how would you feel if you were Chris in that scene where they fought and Chelsea said something like "I'm not throwing our relationship away, I just wanna see if this new guy is the one I'm gonna dump you for." (Re-phrased, but still... Ouuuch!!!)

When that guy Chris was in the bar with after he and Chelsea fought said "Good riddence" I totally agreed.

Waddaya think?

[–] nitrocow 15 years ago

No way.

[–] sam_2009 15 years ago

It is very difficult.

Jealousy is bound to enter the relationship at one point or another.
But then who knows may be I am being biased.

As for me I wouldn't have an escort for a girlfriend but would like to do her now & then :)

[–] ragabonds 15 years ago

Hell no. That's like, eeew...

[–] pjhogan 15 years ago

I doubt I could have an escort as a girlfriend, but I know I couldn't spend an hour with a "Personologist."

[–] coleburg83 15 years ago

Awesome comment.

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You did just fine, Clarence. Now go git yo'self some hot cornbread!

[–] phrozenaphi06 15 years ago

Nope

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[–] hurrdurrimashurr 15 years ago

another vote for fck no

[–] rahavok 15 years ago

Speaking from personal experience: if you truly love someone, you are willing to put up with A LOT. (Even if her profession is prostitution.) However, it's an extremely tough situation that can really only be managed if there's an outlook she's going to give up that lifestyle.

I personally wouldn't recommend it... but it can be done.

[–] GranRoyal 15 years ago

I'm gonna say YES fallowed by a BUT...

But only if I met her as an escort already. If my girlfriend would turned escort I couldn't stand it. But if you meet her as an escort and you fall in love, it means you fell in love with what she is too... And if you went on a date with her, it shows she can separate her professional life from her personal life. Right?

As for the falling in love with a client aspect... Well, IMO, she could be a graphic designer and fall in love with a client too...

Hope I'm clear, english is not language...

[–] AtheistRevolution 15 years ago

No,I know someone that tried to turn a whore into a housewife. It never works out.

Religion is regarded by the common people as true, by the wise as false, and by rulers as useful.

[–] QcLoser 15 years ago

I would say yes, for me its just like any other job but i would have freaked out and dump her if she said to me im gonna go spend the weekend with this guy and if hes great ill dump you and if hes not ill come back. Thats were i draw the line

[–] GonzoNinja 14 years ago

No. I wouldn't f**ck a call girl with Hitler's dick.

[–] Howlin Wolf 14 years ago

I would rather have a prostitute as a girlfriend, because then you'd know it was solely about the physical, and there is less chance of falling for someone if you aren't an intimate companion in terms of actual conversation, and the like...

Knowledge of physical sex acts wouldn't bother me, providing I knew it was done safely.

"I've been turned down more times than the beds at the Holiday Inn; I still try"

[–] CaptainClaudius9 14 years ago

The real dilemma behind your post, which is an extremely interesting question and has merited a few good responses...and a few lousy ones, is can love and morality somehow co-exist peacefully.

Would I want to be in a serious relationship with a person who is a call girl/professional hooker? No and it really doesn't matter how attractive she is or what kind of person she is, I believe in monogamy and I resolute enough to be solely committed to one person and if those ideals could not be shared by a significant other then I would make the choice to leave.

I think that if you truly love a person you would make and sustain certain choices and if a girl was not willing to leave the profession of prostitution out of love for me then I don't see the point in deluding myself that something may change.

[–] deadbunny28 13 years ago

nail on the head...if she doesn't reciprocate ur feelings, drop her fast...it's like in "A Bronx Tale" when they would do "the locked door test" lol...

[–] Strings101 13 years ago

ACTUALLY... if she was already "workin' da biz" when I met her, and...

IF she used condoms for EVERYTHING she did with clients, but went "bareback" with me, and...

IF she NEVER kissed clients on the mouth, only me, and...

IF she had "advanced skills" that really rocked my, umm... socks, and...

IF she had magazine cover girl, killer good looks, and...

IF she called me her "Alpha Pimp Daddy" and gave me a hefty cut of her earnings, then...

I WOULD BE HER STEADY BEAU... for about 6-8 months, i.e. that's all the longer I could lie to myself, and say I'm not jealous/possessive/uncool. No big, she'll find another "steady" soon enough.

OTOH, as we've seen over the past 91 years, as virtually all restrictions have been removed from women (and women's behavior) in the Western world, pretty much ALL WOMEN ARE LIKE CHELSEA, i.e. usin' what they izz born with, to get what they can get, while da gettin's good. Rationalize-cheat, rationalize-divorce, rationalize-trade-up.

[–] aceflyer45 13 years ago

You can't make a ho a housewife. Snoop Dogg said so.

[–] jawsfan007 13 years ago

i'd say yes, but it would depend on a lot of factors and my emotional, physical a, and spiritual connection with the girl. you also have to be prepared to enter a complicated relationship, because it's going to be anything but normal.

I know a lot of guys say they wouldn't, but you meet people everyday and you never know what they may do in their personal lives. The cute girl at your favorite coffee shop could do escort work at night as a second job.

hypo:
you go out with friends (bar, movies, the mall). You meet a girl on whim, someone truly wonderful. you spend the day together, exchange phone numbers, etc. 2nd date, she reveals that she is an escort on the side. Now, i know there are guys that will end the relationship right there, but I think there are some who may be a bit more open-minded. Remember, you liked this girl and up until the 2nd date, you had no idea what she did for a living or that she does this work as a part time job.

On a side note: if I had the opportunity, I would date Sasha Grey.

[–] Strings101 13 years ago

There is simply NO WAY IN HECK that a girl young and hot enough to do the type of "escort" work we're discussing here, would bother working a low-paying coffee-shop job during the day. Goes against female nature, human nature, and the whole "high pay for short hours" rationale for hooking, err, I mean "escorting" in the first place. 'sides, she'd have to spend her days resting up, nail salon, gym, day spa, SHOPPING, etc... not to mention rubbing it in other girls' faces that she's NOT working at "the boring office/shop/factory", etc... ;')

You KNOW it's twue!