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Coming out

posted 14 years ago by Baroody37
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Ok...Im 15 years old and i recently came out of the closet. Currently i am the only openly gay student in my entire school. I go to a very small school in a very small town. Being such a small school, you develop deep relationships with the people around you. So changing the way that those same friends & family will view you is not the easiest thing one can attempt to do. So, if i, and the millions like me know what kind of hardships lay ahead, why would we ever come out? Self gratification? Are we masochistic and enjoy pain and sorrow? No, i think we do it because when you are in the closet, you are acting completely against what your heart is telling you what is right. The more you act like the majority populous, the more the walls of your personal closet close in until you can just take it any longer...and you come out. This was my personal experience with coming out. This is what gay people in America have to endure just so people are aware that they like the same-sex(not accepting, but just making them aware). This country needs to change. I cannot bare the thought of the generation below me dealing with this. That is my two cents, please give me your whole honest opinion. Whether it be pro gay rights, or anti. I enjoy hearing both.

P.S. Sorry if i seemed preachy, this movie just lit a flame in me, and also its worth noting that this was the first movie that made me cry.

"Bitch you don't have a future"

[–] stefanheikel 14 years ago

I'm very happy for you. I wish I could've had the courage to do what you did at 15. I came out right after high school as bisexual, at 20 as gay to just my best friends, and 21 entirely.

Polls have shown that the single biggest factor for supporting gay marriage is not religious beliefs (or lackthereof), but knowing someone who is gay. I believe that if every gay/lesbian American came out of the closet we could legalize gay marriage nationwide within a year.

People close to me have told me that since coming out, I'm a much more calm, laid back individual.

How have the people in your school/town reacted to it? If there are some problems I highly suggest going to a state college in a big city. They tend to all be VERY GLBT friendly.

If you have any questions feel free to post or else PM me!

[–] Baroody37 14 years ago

Their reactions were...Well, unexpected. Almost zero guys believe that im gay, but all the girls do. Im not picked on or anything, because i guess you could say that i was "at the top of the high school food chain". I was very well liked before i came out and almost nothing has changed after. Pretty much the only thing that has changed is that i make a lot more gay sexual remarks and a lot get made about me, but in a joking manor. Im still not out to my family yet though. That will be the hardest thing i do, that will me my Mount Everest to climbers.
"Bitch you don't have a future"

[–] InsanityIsTrueSanity 11 years ago

Better out then in. Congratulations. I'm sure after almost 3 years of you posting this, you are quite happy.

You're just a little boy in a playsuit, crying for mommy and daddy!

[–] chatanuga 14 years ago

I first realized about myself in the fall of 1988 when I was 14 and a freshman in high school. I wasn't able to come to terms with it or tell anybody until January 1996 when I was 21 and a senior in college. While I'm not out to everybody I know, I am out to immediate family and close friends. I'm glad I came out as living a lie is no way to go through life. Granted, not everything has been easy in life since coming out, but it's a lot better than going through life completely in the closet.