So what he did was bad, but what would you girls do? I think Carrrie took it waaaaay too far...I mean Big came right back and said hey im ready ., i think I would of forgave that and got married right then there lol I wouldnt want anything stopping my wedding ! She overreacted and acted like he cheated or something?
shareThe name "Carrie Bradshaw" is synonymous with overreacting to any given situation and making something bad even worse.
shareI wasn't sure what was going on there. Didn't Carrie hear Big say he came back to marry her? They never explain that part. The two of them could have just walked in and got married as if nothing had happened. Of course there would be no movie, LOL.
shareShe admitted she had a bad vibe from him all week. When he couldn't walk in, she "knew" it wasn't right or meant to be in that moment.
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Because if the person you love proposes and you work to get a big day ready and then they're just not there to the point that you drive away and the only thing they say is 'I freaked out but im ready now', just the fact that they had second thoughts; not even, im a little nervous let me have a shot of whiskey second thoughts but JILTING you at the alter second thoughts. That's gonna hurt.
shareAgreed with this!
shareDo you really think if that happened to you, you would have been able to even hear what he was saying? All I would have heard was the blood rushing through my head.
shareThat's why the friends should have calmed her down and given him a chance to talk. Instead, that friend screamed at him bug-eyed, "NO! NO!" I lol'ed at that stupid moment.
shareI laughed, too!! Prim and proper princess Charlotte squawked at him like a lunatic, then tippy tippy toed away in that stupid black dress with the enormous flounce at the bottom. So funny!
sharePeople who would do that are surely not your friends. How ridiculous. Big had enough chances. They don't need to give them even more after he hurt their friend again.
shareBut that was her fear with him. He would leave, so she wasn't rational, nor ready to accept any blame.
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She didn't overreact. It was one of the few moments i think where Carrie actually behaved appropriately. Big had already betrayed her repeatedly in the past; he wouldn't commit to her fully in the past, acknowledge her as his girlfriend, or allow her to move on after they broke up, repeatedly.
So Carrie gave Big another chance, he proposed and he called her on the morning of the wedding to tell her he couldn't go through with it. It might not have been cheating involved, but it was a betrayal of her trust for him (which was already shaky).
And Big isn't the victim here either. He doesn't know how to communicate, even in the most basic way with him girlfriend, and never has. A man who can't tell his fiance that he is nervous or that he really wants a more low-key wedding, shouldn't get married. Big had many opportunities to tell Carrie that he can't do big theatrical weddings - instead he left Carrie humiliated.
I applaud Carrie and her friends for their reaction when the ran into Big on the way back from the wedding.
I think she over reacted because she felt humiliated. To ditch her at the alter after 10 years of an on/off relationship would be enough to make anyone quack! Plus the publicity that would have generated would have been a great embarrassment.
shareI think if a guy stands you up but then changes his mind it would be too hard to be like "well alrighty lets get back to it!" It was extremely hurtful. It's not something g you can just resolve in time to get married and it is really embarrassing he did in the first place. Plus his motivation was pretty weak. Some guy he works with was making fun of him for having a third marriage? Miranda snapped in frustration clearly due to her own marital problems? The wedding got bigger?
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Agreed. If someone has second thoughts, it's not something to be ignored like no problem.
shareCarrie completely overreacted. Men get cold feet.. especially someone like Big who is so emotionally guarded. He also felt out of his element with that big ceremony. The point is that he realized he wanted to go through with it and came back within a few minutes... but she had decided she was mad and that was it..... he had left her at the altar -_-
share<< The point is that he realized he wanted to go through with it and came back within a few minutes.>>
But it was already too late. The wedding was being disassembled as they spoke. The minister was probably already on the way to his next assignment as gaggles of gossiping guests were walking out the door wondering what had happened. And even if, by some miracle, they were able to rush back and catch everyone still in their seats, do you think Carrie would have felt any semblance of happiness or joy walking down the aisle toward her quaking groom? I am kind of shocked she was able to ever speak with him again, ugh!
I find the psychology of both of their behaviour hard to figure out.
Big- he's a big boy that wasn't riddled with insecurities, and freaking out 'at the altar' makes no sense. He'd been married twice before, he knew the drill. They had been together for the last 4 years consistantly and on and off for the 6 years previous to that. How can he not be sure what he wants after 10 years of knowing that person? He was also the one to 'propose' to Carrie. He was clearly the dominant/alpha in the relationship too, but never really sat her down to talk about any of his misgivings: he threw one hissy fit at the size of the wedding, and made one call to Carrie when he was struggling to write his vows. Yet the whole time, he knows what he's in for come wedding day and plays along. I wanna slap him.
But then Carrie... hmm. They weren't properly/officially living together until after he proposed, and he only proposed after Carrie voiced her insecurities about not having any dibs on the penthouse if they split up. But she lapped up the mediocre 'this is just to keep you happy' proposal all the same. It was clear there had been some discussion about the wedding being simple and classic - just like the original dress, so what does she do? She doubles the guest list, does a high profile fashion shoot on getting married, uses an overpaid and extravagant wedding planner, and then when her fiance cracks up; she uses her free designer wedding dress as an excuse as to why she's abandoned their original wedding day plans without telling him and plays dumb as to how their wedding announcement made it to page 6 in the paper. I wanna slap her.
After 10 years they still have no idea how to adequately communicate with one another? So when it blows up in their pretty little faces, Carrie cuts him off altogether and Big sends her emails. uh huh. At least the relationship seemed more realistic in the second movie.