Why didn't Big...


...call Miranda, Charlotte, or Samantha to reach Carrie on their wedding day? Or even Stanford, Anthony, or Harry? He knew Carrie was with them the morning of the wedding, so if he was so desperate to speak with her, he could have called any one of them when she didn't answer her phone after multiple calls.

Obvious answer: Because then we wouldn't have this storyline.

Watching this movie on New Year's Eve because I love the scene where Carrie shows up to Miranda's apartment so Miranda won't be alone.

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Obvious answer: Because then we wouldn't have this storyline.

The less obvious answer is because subconsciously, he didn't want to go through with the wedding, and was using her not answering his calls as some kind of a sign that he shouldn't go through with it. Hypothetically speaking, even if Carrie did answer the phone the first time he called her, would Big have gone through with it? I honestly don't think so. If she answered and talked him into it, he would have found another "sign" on the way to the venue, because he was looking for a reason to bail. In fact, his calling Carrie could be viewed as his way of trying to get her to give him an out. If your fiancé called you the day of the wedding and said, "I don't know if I can do this," what would you say or do? Either way, she was going to be extremely hurt that he was having doubts this late in the game. And it was certainly possible that her hurt would be so great that she might call off or postpone the wedding herself. I don't think he was calling Carrie looking for reassurance. I think he was calling to tell her - in one way or another - that he wasn't going through with the wedding. And again, I don't think it was a conscious belief on his part. I think he thought he just needed to talk to her and he'd be fine. But that wasn't the case.

Regardless of how many times he tried to reach her, or what methods he used, the fact of the matter is, he did speak to her before the wedding was set to take place. She did technically reach him "before it was too late", but he had already made up his mind and said "I can't do this." In my opinion, he was at that point long before he actually said the words.

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Agreed. He didn't want to go through with it.

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Why would he have ANY of those people's numbers?

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Consider the daffodil. And while you're doing that I'll be over here looking through your stuff.

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Because Big didn't live in a vacuum away from the rest of Carrie's life. Carrie's friends meant everything to her and Big knew it. There's no way Big never spent any time with them. I have phone numbers for my husband's closest friends as well as phone numbers for my closest friends' husbands. Likewise, my husband has my closest friends' numbers and their husbands' numbers. When you spend a lot of time with people, numbers get exchanged.

Also, we know Big has their numbers because he says at the end of the movie that he called them to meet them at the courthouse after they get married. You think he got their numbers for the first time ever just before their courthouse wedding? Not likely.

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Her friends meant a lot to her. There's no reason Big would want or need their phone numbers. Just because you have the phone numbers to your closest friends doesn't mean that's what everybody does. There's nonsensical reason why he should have them so you are just wrong that this is a plot problem.

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Consider the daffodil. And while you're doing that I'll be over here looking through your stuff.

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Agreed. And he would certainly have the wedding planner's phone number. He didn't want to talk to Carrie.

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Someone already gave my answer but to clarify what others posted.

Why would he have all of Carrie's friends #s or that of the wedding planners... He wasn't shown involved in the decision?

I've been in a few long term relationships & neither of us had each others friends info - I had no need to speak to his boys and vice versus.

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I remember when I was unexpectedly hospitalized, my husband of many years had to go through MY address book to notify friends and family (my side, IDK, maybe his side, too) of my predicament. I don't think most guys would even think of having numbers of their GF's friends.
Despite what the movie tried to imply, I do not think Big was making much effort to contact Carrie at all. All those recycled love letter e-mails were so very lame, IMO

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He would not have had their phone numbers. It would have been totally against his character to have their phone numbers handy.

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Watching this movie on New Year's Eve because I love the scene where Carrie shows up to Miranda's apartment so Miranda won't be alone.


My favorite part of the movie! I love the version of "Auld Lang Syne" that plays throughout that scene.

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Right?

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