Age has nothing to do with a person getting cancer, cureable or terminal. Cancer can happen to anyone, at any age or stage in their life. For example, lukemia is a very, very common cancer for young people to get.
There also seems to be this myth that if you're young, you can't get cancer. That's completely untrue, and it's a reason that many young people die. Believe it or not, doctors and other medical staff have this attitude where they say, "Well, you're young! You can't possibly have cancer! It's probably just some virus. We'll treat your symptoms, and I'm sure they'll go away." This actually happens, and while the cancer might be diagnosed, it often is let go for too long, allowing the cancer to spread. Even with treatment (surgery, chemo, radiation, or a combo of those) cancer can still be far too aggressive to be cured. By the way, only after 5 years of finding no trace of cancer is a person considered cured, though they still have a higher chance of cancer than someone who never had it.
No one is exactly certain how a lot of cancers start. Some can be hormonal (or affected by hormones, such as breast cancer which can be estrogen receptive, meaning estrogen makes the cancer grow), environmental, or genetic. Environmental causes are quick becoming considered the cause for the increase in cancers. Doctors don't really believe diet has much to do with getting cancer, as many studies contradict one another. There's studies that say that eating more soy will prevent cancer, yet eating a lot of soy can harm women who have estrogen sensative cancers.
Another myth that seems to be rampant about people who have cancer is that they can't possibly do anything other than lay there and die. Being diagnosed with cancer, even being told that you're terminal, does not mean that the person can't decide to do something big. The treatments might tire the person out, but they still strive to make their life their own, rather than let cancer dictate what they can and can't do. She had a dream to have a candle store. It was her passion. A person who knows they have a finite time left is not going to say, "I'm dying. I always wanted to open a store, but I suppose all I can do is sit here and let the cancer eat away at my body." Provided they have the energy and true drive, they're going to get up and open the shop. As for who will run it after they're gone, just as planning with a will, I'm sure a person who would open a place when they've got something else in their life would have a plan for that as well.
Sorry for all of that. There's a lot about cancer patients that's assumed, and most all of it is completely false, or imagined. That includes everything from how a person reacts when told they have cancer to how they live their daily life.
As for the rest of your questions, I'm sure the boy is going to have some trauma, though he'll understand a bit more as he gets older. Not every woman feels the need or desire to remarry. If a marriage was bad, it isn't exactly something they want to go back into. Consider it something like having a really horrible car accident while you're driving. You might strongly consider ever getting behind the wheel again, preferring to be the passenger. If you ever do get back behind the wheel, you're going to think long and hard about if you really want to.
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