The wife is a SAINT - The Danish Girl (2016) Discussion

[–] TxMike 9 years ago

I believe if you would look up and read about her (in real life) it would help you understand better. What was depicted in the movie doesn't begin to tell the whole story about her.

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[–] purpleblows 9 years ago

I looked it up after posting that comment and her life ended tragic which is a shame. Like as if she didn't get a real chance in life. Her husband is a woman, her new husband spends all her cash and she ends her days alone and penniless ouch! But the character in the movie was way too kind it was a bit much

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[–] AnotherUserID 9 years ago

The way her second marriage ended seemed tragic to me also. Given that historical information of her indicates she was a lesbian, I'm assuming that marriage was likely one of convenience. But the time in her life covered by the film was mis-representation and pure male fantasy, including the image of Gerda as a suffering, saint-like door mat of hetero-normal devotion. By all accounts, Lilly and Gerda lived happily and openly in a bohemian Parisian community that accepted their life choices for twenty years. The film not only mis-represented Gerda's sexuality and their marriage but also Gerda's art, showing her success hinging on her paintings of Lilly. In reality, Gerda's lesbian erotica was popular. Perish the thought of Holleywood representing twenty years of happiness of two successful women living their lives independently in an environment that fostered their freedom. Instead we this melodramatic schlock wrapped in gorgeous costumes and beautiful sets to please the more mindless and spineless members of the academy. Misogyny plus expensive fabric and an indulgent score equals Oscar bait.

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[–] nineteenthly 9 years ago

Whether or not the depiction is true to life, and I acknowledge that there is an important and subversive story left untold here, the way the character in the film is shown is true to the lives of many women whose partners have transitioned. So much so, in fact, that I'm concerned how my own partner would feel about this movie. She has enough pain in her life from what I've done already.

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[–] HeroinePea 9 years ago

I know, I felt bad for Gerda. I mean, once Lily knew or came out as a woman, I felt like he kind of pushed his wife to the side. I guess that I thought they would continue their relationship once Einar became a woman.

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[–] BugisStreetAnnie 9 years ago

the way the character in the film is shown is true to the lives of many women whose partners have transitioned. So much so, in fact, that I'm concerned how my own partner would feel about this movie. She has enough pain in her life from what I've done already.

This is slightly off topic, but on other sites this was mentioned (and it's something I wondered about also), the differences between male-to-females compared to female-to-males. You hear about a lot of male-to-females, like yourself, that came out and transitioned later after living as heterosexual males, but you never hear about female-to-males that lived for many years as heterosexual females before transition. Ones like Chaz Bono lived as a lesbian pre-transition. From all of the female-to-males I've heard about that is how it's been.

My personal belief is that for a lot of male-to-females it has more to do with a sexual fetish about being women, and female-to-males don't have a fetish about being men. That's all I can think of as one of the things I've heard that some male-to-females will say is "I love women so much I decided to become one," but you don't hear FtM's saying they love men so much they decided to become one.

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[–] melissy87-928-30530 8 years ago

This is going to sound harsh but To be honest I blame her for a lot of it . She encouraged and quite honestly let her friends and herself belittle him . She drew naked women all day maybe that's what she wanted and she got it . Terrible end to this poor man .

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