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Inspiring

posted 15 years ago by pliten2
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I really liked the message of the movie. No matter what personal issues you're having in life, just learn to live with it. If you have a positive outlook on life, you can live a happy life no matter how screwed up you are. If you concentrate too much on silencing your inner voices and making yourself feel better, then I think it's easy to fall into negative patterns where you see obstacles instead of challenges, and then you just make things worse, because noone faces obstacles head on, instead you try to work your way around them, which usually doesn't work when it comes to the human brain.

I suffer from avoidant personality disorder and now that I'm aware of it I've been able to track this behaviour down to a rough experience I had in my pre-teens. When I was 10-11 years old, my two best friends since 3 years started to manipulate and bully me. I think as their hormones were developing they started to see me as a threat, because I was the brightest kid in our class, and I was great in sports too. This experience severely scarred my view on friendship. I became terrified of revealing my potential weaknesses, and when you think like that it's easy to become paranoid, so I started to question and run everything around in my head several times before I shared it, to make sure it was impossible to use it against me. I turned into a social mute, because I just couldn't share anything without feeling like crap, because I felt like the other person would use it against me, and whenever that happened, I built up a even thicker wall.

All my life I've been saying that life isn't fair, because of my struggles, but if you think about it, I could have it worse. I could be blind. Now that would be a real struggle, and it's definately not something you can overcome either. In reality I have it a lot better than a lot of ppl, and I think the first thing you need to realise is that life isn't fair. I've been looking for "the answer" endlessly, something that would remove this handicap of mine. Maybe there is no such thing as "the answer". I know that from now on I'm going to focus more on living and dealing with my issue than trying to erase it from my identity, kind of like being blind.

[–] itzumang 15 years ago

:)

Was good to read & din' get Preachy at all, I'll make my efforts to do the same.

[–] Jon364 15 years ago

I could relate to this movie more then some Matthew McConaghey romcom where he is shirtless and searching for treasure in some exotic island.

It isn't pleasant to watch, it's a bit of a taboo subject. However it's nice to see movies address issues like this and it felt alot more real in doing so. Like the relationship between the two main characters seemed strong because it was based on something real. Rather then pretending everything is okay all the time, which is what society seems to teach us, since talking about mental illness is taboo. Most people don't know what to say if you say you are feeling down. So instead try to be 100% happy all the time. Which is exhuasting if you aren't actually feeling those things.

I also liked that his friend wouldn't want her to see his shrink because it gives her a trump card or weapon. I think alot of us feel that way. And in turn never really get to know each other on any type of deep level. Most people are flawed in someway, but we all fear that if our partner finds out these flaws that they will run. If they run, you know they never cared in the first place. It seems like a necessary step in order to get to trully know someone.

Usually I say don't learn things from movies, but there were a few good little things in this movie, which you can learn from. It wasn't perfect but if you are in the right mood it's okay.