Unrealistic!!

Yeah, damn right.

It should be a movie about a woman and a man that both love ballet (gay man?)!

OR it should be about a man and a woman that both love bowling (lesbian woman?)!

Personally, I find it more realistic that the couple have different interests (hobbies) than very much the same interest (they want sex with the same people).

Guys, seriously, let's never forget that THIS IS A MOVIE and for the plot to proceed the elements involved MUST be executed to keep the film entertaining. Of course, there needs to be realism, but seriously, what's so unrealistic? Who said that Vaugh's character Gary was like that the WHOLE relationship? Even if he was, it might have not bothered Brooke in the beginning because playing V-games, lounging and drinking a beer or two was something he enjoyed and she might have figured she would adapt. Then maybe later in the relationship, as seen, it became a bigger problem. But really, I shouldn't have to spell all this out. You guys need to stop overanalyzing everything and enjoy the friggin film. You’re complaining about the profanity? Are you serious?! If the The Break-Up didn't have the elements that you're complaining about, It would be one hella-va boring movie now wouldn't it? Why? Because the conflict would be gone. The scene that led to their breaking-up is one of my favorite arguments scenes in film, who couldn’t have enjoyed that? Also, you saying “Brooke wouldn’t tolerate it” as if you knew the character the writers made up personally… come on. How would you know? People DO tolerate things when there in a serious relationship. You don't just WALK AWAY without trying, and she really did with him. I’m sure I don’t need to draw another example of what things could have been like before the audience comes in at that point in their lives. Viewers should have enough imagination to take care of that themselves. Oh yeah, and the “tolerate thing,” she showed that she wouldn’t when she broke up with him! So yeah, those are my words on it. I really don’t understand this thread and complaining on this issue, the main reason i had to speak on it. its pointless. The movie is fine and realistic the way it is- an absolute favorite of mine.

I am a well educated, successful businesswoman who owns her own home and earns a very nice living. I tend to be attracted to passionate creative types who rarely have much money and never have equity.

Go figure. Opposites do, quite often, attract. Staying together is the hard part.

In fact, if you want another fictional example of this: Sex & The City. Charlotte is a sophisticate who works in a art gallery and comes from money. She never swears and is the picture of class. She fell for a bald, bull-in-a-china-shop kind of guy for whom couth is a mystery.

There is a reason the princess and the frog ideal has endured for so long.




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This movie is absolutely realistic. As one poster mentioned, it is pointless to explain why, but what the heck....Couples are attracted to each other and have some things in common, like enjoying ball games and what not. But when they get together, they learn that all of those seemingly "petty" things they did not have in common become a big deal. And as man bashing as it seems, please do not even get me started on the whole asking a man to do something, and he does not do it at all, or does a half ass job of it and thinks it is no big deal. To keep things fair, us women have our quirks to. I will let a guy rant about those though. I could totally relate to this movie, especially the beginning. Now I did find that they let things get way out of hand before deciding to move on or to actually reconcile. But I've seen couples actually push things that far too.

is not part of the lure of film, its quality of fantasy and its many abstractions?

if realism is the most important quality to you, perhaps you should videotape your neighbours and watch it later...

I agree with everyone saying it is realistic. Not everyone likes a person with the same interests. Although, I am a girl that loves lounging, drinking, and playing video games, but I also love art, reading, fine cuisine, dancing, and traveling. And, yes, women do think they can "change" a man. Such a shame. But we all learn what we really want, eventually. I would be bored with a guy that had the same interests as me... although there are some things they HAVE to have in common with me. I think the most interesting relationships are the ones where they learn from one another.

Can I just say that I like art, ballet and video games (and am straight, female). Assuming these two people couldn't mesh together is ludacris.

Um... the fact that they have different interests and are 'different kinda people' is part of the reason that we don't have to be forced to deal with an elongated first act that shows us why the relationship is going to deal with a break-up. It's accepted as common knowledge that 'opposites attract' and they're both obviously attractive people. We can assume that they were both at a point in their lives where the idea of settling down suited the both of them... so it's only natural to think that they could have ended up together.

But this wasn't a movie that was trying to tell us that they were soulmates that didn't stick together because of pettiness and an inability to properly communicate... or any other simple misfortune on their end. The relationship was almost certainly doomed to end up in an eventual break-up, despite any genuine attraction and fondness they will ever feel for one another.