So who's side were you on?

Honestly, I could sympathize with both sides. I don't think they were a good fit for the long haul.

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you put it perfectly. i was on brooke's side the entire movie. even at the end, i was like well . . . nice try but about 6 months too late. i would have kicked him out a lot earlier.

she worked, then had ot come home and cook, clean and entertain. im not saying gary should have done all of that, but definitely sharing the responsibility would have been nice. maybe if she didnt work 8 hours everday, then she should have been responsible for the house, but she worked. she didnt deserve to be taken advantage of. team brooke, definitely!

C'est le temps que tu a perdu pour ta rose qui fait ta rose si importante...

I'm a guy, and this makes sense to me blue.


Brooke was the victim throughout the movie while Gary had just one scene. Any guy would know that her bringing other guys back into the apartment is just an irrational attempt of hers to provoke his feelings. A good guy would have his feelings provoked but see for what it is: her trying to make him jealous. Jealousy is a mysterious thing though. An attempt to provoke someone else's jealousy says something about her feelings. If she had a hope for him to turn jealous it means that she still wants to repair things with him. Gary should have recognized that, saw it as a sign to take action in healing their relationship, and not that she had moved on. If she had truly moved on it wouldnt be worth the effort to walk around naked or the awkwardness of bring someone else home. Call it mind reading, or whatever you wish but a desire for your partner to try and understand your thought process without spelling things out is not an unreasonable request, imho.

i think i was on brookes side. but there were many times when i felt truely sorry for gary, especially when they chucked him off the bowling team. and after she went off with those guys, his face made me feel sad :(

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At first, Gary's side - and I'm a woman! I thought Brooke was a complete nag, and caused the argument that caused the breakup. I mean, women should know who they're getting when they enter a relationship, and I'm sure she knew that he was not the domestic type. Then after seeing the movie several times, neither of their sides. Both selfish and self-absorbed.

Why on earth would she deserve the condo? If they both put the same amount of money into it. then it should be even. I do not recall any mention in the movie of Brooke putting more money into it than Gary.

Both are at fault here, but Gary is who he is. When Brooke wants him to want to do the dishes she is being idiotic. He is willing to help, she should just be happy with that.

Part of the problem is that Brooke is an incredible control freak. She is prissy, needs a nicely decorated house, and a 12 lemon centerpiece. Getting upset about the lemons is just stupid. Gary could care less about what is in the center of the table. If she cares that much about her centerpiece she needs to tell him this beforehand, to make sure he understands the importance of 12 lemons and not three. Brooke makes the mistake of assuming he knows she is making a sacrifice for him, and then getting upset when he does not read her mind. She wants someone more intuitive, which is fine. Instead of changing Gary, however, she should find someone else if the issue is that important to her.

The college football/ballet issue is a major problem with Brooke, and it is a mistake many women make. She goes to a football game, something she does not want to do, in the hopes that in return he will go to a ballet. A much more intelligent solution is for him to go to a game with his brother and her to go to the ballet with a friend. For her to torture herself at a football game is absurd, as is for him at attend a ballet. The problem is that she does not tell him beforehand that she is going to the football game in return for a trip to the ballet. She wants him to realize(without her saying it) that she does things she does not like for him, and he should do the same for her. That is not a healthy way to approach relationships. She would have done much better explaining to him how she felt beforehand. Not torturing herself, assuming he knew she was torturing herself for him, and then getting angry when he did not want to torture himself to return the favor.

Gary is simple and direct. If she asked him to help with things he would, but he is content in a messy house, so it is pretty idiotic to assume he is going to step up and do something which holds little value to him without her asking.

You have to accept people for who they are. You can help change the way they behave, but you cannot change who they are. Brooke is such a self-centered control freak that she attempts to force him to change. If you are going to break up with someone over something you need to mean it. Doing so in the assumption that they will change because you are so special is a pretty absurd level of self-importance. If you throw down the gauntlet you need to accept the consequences.

Brook was a bitch. She took a childish approach and it back fired. I felt for her at the begining, but after she had Gary kicked of the bowing team I hoped she would have a brain aneurysm.