For me it definitely does. I look at how terrible of people many of the parents on this show are and can't help but worry if I would be like that if I had children. Also, I could never live with myself if I ruined someone's life in the way many of the parent's seem to have done to those profiled on the show.
shareEverything about the world makes me wish everyone was sterile.
shareI am a male who loves children and babies, but for whatever reason I couldn't get my wife pregnant. Dunno what the deal was, but it didn't happen. Am I sad? Yes. But I soothe that sadness by saying that this World is a sh.thole, and that life is hard and will get much harder as the decades pass. I went through a lot of sh.t from other people growing up which shaped my worldview. Part of me seriously would love to see the human race destroy itself with nuclear weapons while I am hiding out in Laos or a South Pacific Island, this is my contempt for the human race, and I really want my child to live in it?
Having children is a crapshoot. You might have healthy children who grow up to be successful adults. People also have sick and children who die young. My parents had three children and I am the only one who lived to adulthood. My older brother died before I was born of menengitis and a younger brother who died shortly after birth. My Catholic aunt had seven children, in which two have died, one of (basically) AIDS and the other in a car accident. There is a saying that children should never die before their parents but it happens all the time.
Some people have successful children who do well as adults, and other children that for whatever reason, don't. Some might be criminals, get into hard drugs, are lazy, antisocial, sociopathic. Very easy to end up with a 24-25 year old living at home drunk, living in your basement who can't keep a job and has a court date next week for that second DUI, with the parents hiding their *beep* so the kid doesn't steal it for the dope man. I know because I was that person. My parents didn't really deserve that, although they were a part of shaping who I was. Other parents have children with medical problems, mental retardation, autism. There are parents who have children who want them dead or have murdered them. Menendez Brothers anyone?
I like Dr. Phil and he had a girl named Alexandra and her family on numerous times. Alexandra was this white girl from an upper middle class to fairly wealthy California family with two parents and at least one sister, but thinking two. The other children were fairly respectable, married, went to college,had jobs, one had a baby on the way. Alexandra on the other hand was a pill popper addict, got pregnant at 15-16 years old, and had three children by three different fathers over the next ten years, all to trashy, criminal men. The babies are being taken care of by the parents with Alexandra in the wind doing whatever the f..k she wants. Her parents and especially her father did not deserve this grief. They are so deluded with love for her that they think "If only we can get Alexandra sober! She could go to college, have a career, marry a loving man and we will all be happy!" Problem is that Alexandra wants her pills, her high, and a hard penis in her vagina. Girl is dumber than a box of rocks, and has taken away the attention of the parents from the other children who are succeeding in life, to the point of making them mentally sick and resentful towards them.......
.......what I am saying here is if they never had sex the night they conceived Alexandra, their life would be much better and happier, but are now stuck for a lifetime or chasing this sociopathic idiot child or writing her off completely. Sh.t like that makes me happy I am not a parent.
Too long but there it is, and I keep this in mind when I see a beautiful baby or toddler and wish it were mine.
I hear you. I really think that too many people are pressured into being parents out of societal pressure when they don't want to, and as a result the kids end up neglected and messed up. I must say it's a great advantage to being gay!
share"Having children is a crapshoot."
Shooting CRAP into the world? Sounds about right.
However, it's WORSE than that. It's not about health - I mean, obviously, it is, but it's just so much more than just that.
Think about Vlad the Impaler. Think about chairman Mao. Think about sadists, psychopaths, murderers, rapists. Think about women that have murdered their own babies.
These same people 'die' at some point, then they are reincarnated into SOMEONE'S babies.
Think about what kind of SOUL enters the body you manufacture with someone. It's not really "your child" as much as it's "some individual that has nothing to do with you, but who chose the body you fabricated to enter this world via", that you will be harboring.
Think about some low-life that gets into a gunfight with the cops, the cops murder that individual, then they are 'born as your baby'.
No matter how physically healthy that baby is, it could be ANYONE that comes to the world 'as your baby' that you then 'love, cherish and raise'. They become an adult at some point, and.. do what? You can't predict it, no matter HOW well you raise it.
Let's face it, you are not going to be able to raise it properly anyway, as even if you watch Supernanny, you don't take it seriously enough to duplicate the discipline techniques to a tea, you might sloppily and wrongly try it out once, and it OF COURSE doesn't work because you are weak and spineless in front of those crying puppy eyes, and you won't follow through, and then you feel helpless.
Then you are shocked, scared and worried, when you have to go pick up your sun that drove under the influence, and this begins the long and painful descent into the world of drugs and crime that your badly raised son sinks deeper into every day. You will have visits from 'questionable, scary types', your son is suddenly away for months, there's no communication, and you find drug periphanelia in his room. Your electronics start disappearing..
Well, I probably don't have to pain a picture much further than that - you will become an alcoholic with some kind of painkiller addiction, while your wife commits a suicide or runs away with some 'exciting foreigner' and your son's 'friends' start visiting more often, and eventually your whole place becomes just a drug den.
Crapshoot?
YOU WISH.
Really, the majority of these addicts are on the show because they had abusive parents or parents that wouldn't listen to their cries for help and had terrible coping methods so they self-medicate with drugs.
I honestly think as long as you do everything you can to help your child, then that's that.
Really, the majority of these addicts are on the show because they had abusive parents or parents that wouldn't listen to their cries for help and had terrible coping methods so they self-medicate with drugs.
I honestly think as long as you do everything you can to help your child, then that's that.
No.
I never had a want to have children, so a want to not have them can't really be created.
I think it only works with people who have such a want. Only they can then get a want to not do it.
Your question is phrased a bit differently, though, so maybe I misunderstood. In any case, the show can't make me what I already am - it can't make me 'not want' something I already 'do not want'.