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she was so mean to her mom

posted 14 years ago by sinceworld
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and the mom just took it ! i couldnt believe it

[–] purpleblows 14 years ago

YOu must be a parent or a child who's mother treats her with no respect.

The daughter was going through a crisis and totally lashing out because she didnt know how else to deal with her desperate situation, the mother handled the only way she knew how without further hurting her daughters feelings.

[–] sinceworld 14 years ago

it was totally unacceptable how her mother was treated she was like GET OUT OF MY ROOM hello its not even her room its her moms she pays for it and what kind of dumbass nearly kills herself for bullies and puts her friends family through such a stressfull thing ? just chnage schools for gods sake

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[–] xaviergrad01-1 14 years ago

I gotta agree with Sinceworld with this. I'm 30 and was raised by a very old school mom and grandmother. Respect to elders at all times no matter what may be going on in a child's life is an absolute must. If Vanessa had yelled at my grandma like that, she wouldn't have needed those pills to try to kill herself. About the privacy issue, yes I know kids want their privacy and I wanted mine when I was a teen. I remember one time that my mom found a letter that my 14 year old friend wrote me (I was 13) and decided to open and read it. Let's just say that there was some stuff in there that I didn't want her to know about. Anyway, I was mad then but realize now that if my mom respected my privacy like I wanted, I may have done some really questionable things. However, I did feel sorry for Vanessa and those girls should have been burned alive for what they did. But it was no excuse to take it out on the one person who was trying to help. JMHO

[–] SweetPeika16 14 years ago

This is in no way directed at anyone, but just some of my own thoughts on the whole situation with Vanessa and her mom.

I feel that people often lash out at the person they love the most because sometimes they do not know how to deal with upsetting situations and the person with them (Vanessa’s mom/every day parents) tend to be the punching bag. I remember there were awful days I had in school and I would come home so upset and my anger would be directed at my parents, although I did not want to take it out on them. It was not like I wanted to scream at them, but they were just there and often I just wanted to be alone and gather my thoughts before opening up to others. I find for a lot of people if you just give them a moment to “cool down” then within a few minutes, hours, whatever, they are usually calm. I am sure Vanessa did not want to scream at her mother, but because her mom was present and she was feeling overwhelmed, it was like, oh gosh, let me just scream/direct my anger at her and have it be over with.

I hope that makes sense and again, just my own thoughts because I have been in Vanessa’s shoes. I am not saying she is right for yelling at her mom, but when you are a teenager everything is just so darn dramatic. lol

R.I.P. MJ!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=40S1shLiK30

[–] cafeaulait 14 years ago

I agree it's pretty much psychology 101. we take out our frustrations on the people closest to us. She was lashing out and she knows her mom will always be there for her

[–] SweetPeika16 14 years ago

After looking at my long post, I should have just said it's a case of psychology 101. lol You said everything I was thinking and made it quick and to the point!

R.I.P. MJ!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=40S1shLiK30

[–] AlexTheGreyWolf 14 years ago

Yep you two are right, when people are confused and upset they tend to lash out to those closest to them because they need a way to release their emotions. Vanessa should have of course released those emotions at Stacey but she finally did at the end of the film.