Did anyone here ever stand up to bully?
and succeed? or am I the only person here to ever stand up to a bully, and graduate from the school with a smile in my face?
shareand succeed? or am I the only person here to ever stand up to a bully, and graduate from the school with a smile in my face?
shareWell, back in second grade there was a big boy in my class who wanted my Raisinets candy. We were at snack time and I gave him one. Then he asked "can I have the whole thing?" IDK why but I screamed "NO!" and everyone stopped and stared at me. "Damn, you don't have to yell," was his reply. I ran out and cried only b/c I had never stood up to a kid like that before. The teacher took me aside and told me how proud she was of me. That was the easiest win for me.
In middle school when I was bullied I had my parents call the principal and file a report every time I was harassed in school. Tripped, teased, hit. I reported this boy so many times in 7th grade and his retort when the guidance counselor confronted him was "Oh I was only playing," and she believed that meant that this was not a serious matter. P.S. none of these boys graduated from high school.
But remember that bullies will follow us throughout life. I was bullied at work this summer, before I left the job. Workplace bullying is the result of a jealous, insecure and angry person who wants to jeopordize any competition with a new employee, and/or someone who he sees as a threat.
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I stood up for someone else, against their bully once, and I gave a girl a criminal record... after she beat me up, about 3 days after my 15th birthday - thought she was invincible with her dozen gang members circled around, beating up a girl she'd known since year 7 (I'm english year 7 is when you are around age 11/12) and so who knew who she was. Dumb-ass didn't think my parents would notice my face being temporarily ballooned up (got kicked in the head a dozen or so times and they stole my birthday present which was a skateboard and smashed it to bits). Anyway, I was the first one to actually get the police on the girls ass : P She'd beaten up a number of people (including guys - she had huge muscles) in the past but none had ever had the guts to phone the police on her and take her to court.
Erm, oh and one time, there was a girl a couple years earlier than this, when i was about 12 and this girl slapped me. I'd had enough of girls and boys pulling my hair, slapping me, calling me names and I just thought, ya know what, I'm not taking this without a fight, so I slapped her back. Every day for the next week she was waiting for me at the school gates, she'd slap me and I'd slap her back, just because I didn't want to be the loser as usual... anyhow, it's not the most heroic of stories, I gave up eventually and she stopped.
I have to admit though, the emotional/verbal bullying is a lot worse (for me anyhow) than the physical and much harder to get over. I feel lucky that even though I was generally physically bullied in some form through all of highschool and even primary (elementary) school I wasn't preyed upon mentally by a group of girls like vanessa is... mental torture is worse than anything, and it hurt the most when people called me tarzan (because of frizzy hair) and a man (because I beat the boys at arm wrestling in primary school) than any of the slaps, or hits.
I was bullied at work and on my last day, I went up to the bully and said to her, "Bonnie, I just wanted to thank you for being so kind to me". It was so worth it seeing her face melt like it belonged in a Dali painting!
shareThere were these 2 white-trash brothers who used to pick on me in elementary school on the bus. Until I punched the younger one in the face. Then it stopped. (I am female)
After that I started standing up for other bullied people. Bullies are cowards! And when you start pushing them back, all of the people who were "on their side" because they were afraid suddenly are on YOUR side because they always hated the bully as well!
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"Love means never having to say you're ugly." - the Abominable Dr. Phibes
When I was in 5ththe grade, a girl who had bullied me the entire year called me a freak as I walked out if school. I was sick of putting up with it so I walked outside, brought my mom in the school, and said to the girl: "this is my mother. if you have a problem with me try taking it up with her." The gym teacher was nearby and saw what happened and the next day she told me how proud she was that I took the situation to an adult. The girl ended up suspended for a day for calling me names.
Then in 7ththe grade, another girl who couldn't stand me followed me outside after volleyball practice and hit me in the face when I told her to stop making fun of my friend. I told her to stop being so nasty and that she would get hers, and the next day the principal had me file a police report about it. She was suspended, and ended up dropping out of school shortly thereafter when she became pregnant. I was bullied a lot as a kid, and it just got to a point where I didn't care if I seemed like a tattletail, I refused to stoop down to their level so I took the situation to someone who could handle it effectively.
There was this guy who RELENTLESSLY tormented me in junior high (I'm now 23). I was kind of gawky back then but since I have grown into my looks, he didn't recognize me. He tried to give me a hug and flirt with me while I was at the bar with my friend (and someone he knew from school too). I blew him off and spoke a few choice words to him. Felt so good. He was just an insecure little twit who thought he was making himself look good. I swear kids think they're such hot sh*t if they're in the "in crowd". It doesn't matter once you reach adulthood.
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I did, bear in mind at the time i had at least 10 or so people bullying me, I started answering the guy back and calling him names, whilst I was doing it I was been egged on.
then he took a swing at me and knocked me to the ground so I didnt try it again.
However he got kicked out his gang and started been a bully victim himself the next year.
There was a guy who made my life hell in school. Him and his friends attacked me in the cloack room once and all denied it and got away with it. And one day one guy tipped me over getting off the bus. I fell flat on my face and nearly broke my nose. And he laughed and said 'Enjoy your trip?' with all his friends laughing around him. I'll never forget how I ran off crying with blood gushing out my nose.
So years later I bumped into him in a local bar (We were both 20 at this point) And I turned round and said as loud as I could 'So tell me Jake? Your not still being violent to girls now are you?' Haha he looked horrified and I followed that by calling him a vile C word (and believe me I hate that word so I didn't use it lightly) And before I left I 'accidently' knocked his pint of beer over and it went all down his leg. :) Never seen him since.
Another girl attacked me after high school in the arcades one night. She beat me up pretty bad. At this point I'd made plans to work in Spain for the summer and my flight was in 2 weeks. As son as I got home my mom wanted me to go to the police but it wouldn't have been the girls first offence and I would have had to attend court. I wasn't letting that vile thing put off my travelling plans so I took pictures of all my injuries that night. The next day I had to go to her house cos I'd left mt coat there and I warned her if she ever came near me or tried to contact me again I would go straight to the police. And that threat still stands
i always hope i never run into any of my bullies...but if i do...I hope it goes a little something like it did with you & that guy in the bar. That must have felt really good to get back at him like that for being such a jerk to you.
A lot of the jock guys & girls were so arrogant & mean to me in every year of high school--it's like none of them had a nicec bone in their body. I was never strong enough to stand up for myself...but if i ever saw them now...i dunno what i would do...but probably give them a sign that i still think they're scum lol (I'm 20 btw)