jjamison-2 wrote:
They do that in Europe, but she wasns't in Europe. I noticed from the first that Madeline couldn't keep her hand off anybody. She was much too kissy-face with everyone, and in the scene with Johnny in the kitchen, I thought she was going to make a pass at him, she came on so strong.
Cultures differ very widely in how physical people are with each other. Families also differ very widely in how physical they are with each other.
Madeleine grew up in a variety of cultures and would have gone to school in those cultures. Probably, however, Madeleine grew up in a family in which people are very physically affectionate with each other.
Madeleine is part of her husband's family, as the father points out, and she is trying to make it clear that she thinks of them as family by treating them the way she treats family members. She makes a particular effort to do this because of her awareness of the large cultural gap. She wants to be accepted by the family, and she does not want to appear to be rejecting them. Perhaps she is trying too hard, but she is making quite a sincere effort.
She was just meeting those people, and in their own home, and she should have waited to see what kind of greeting they would give before she started kissing them.
Those are your values, and maybe to some degree the values of the family. Actually, also of my family. But they are far from universal, and they are not Madeleine's values. Put the parents in Madeleine's parent's home, and they are going to come across as real cold fish.
Southerners frequently complain that Northerners are cold. Northerners can feel that their personal space is being invaded by Southerners. It is just a cultural difference. Here, the only warm Southerner that we have is Ashley.
I don't see any trace that Madeleine might be sexually attracted to Johnny. And I can't imagine any woman other than someone like Ashley being attracted to him.
Madeleine is physical with everyone. It is the way she grew up, and it is just the way she is. If someone is upset or angry, she is going to try to comfort them by touching and hugging. People who grew up with different behavioral norms are going to be confused by it and may misinterpret it.
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