Okay, while I do agree with everything you said about Amelia's awful personality--I really thought we were over her going on and on about how awful her life was, but I guess not. Amelia, the sobfest. I can't agree with this:
And don't get me started on the way she treated Mer after Derek died and the fact that she thought she should be there before Mer pulled the plug (or something along those lines). Pretty sure the spouse has final say, and if there is no spouse the parents would. The sibling would never have say unless all three of the previous parties are gone.
Amelia had every right to be pissed. You're assuming Ames would want a different outcome; the spouse of course has the final say (pulling the plug) but Amelia wanted to say bye! not to hijack Mer's decision.
Derek's death was not just about Meredith and what she wanted. Meredith knows what type of a person Derek is, and in the past, he's explicitly SAID that he wanted his family to be there if he were to pass. He's a family man. That's something that Meredith should have taken into consideration before she took all of 1 minute to pull the plug on the love of her life. She should have considered HIS wishes and not her stringent ass belief about pulling the plug bc death is inevitable or whatever the hell grim belief Mer has.
Amelia wasn't acting like her grief was greater; she was acting like someone who was robbed of an opportunity to grieve properly, and she was. She lives RIGHT THERE. It's not like Mer would have had to wait while the family comes up from the East Coast or whatever. She'd have to make one phone call and Amelia would have been there within 30 minutes and said her goodbye.
It was horribly cold and cruel that Meredith didn't even consider Derek's family. As a big fan of Mer up until last season, I tried to defend her actions (bc yes she was grieving in her own silent, stoic way) but then she became a straightup bitch to her sister-in-law and it was unforgivable. I remember that scene where Mer said Amelia was stealing her life, just as Amelia announced her plans with Owen
Anyways, as someone who has loathed Amelia since the Private Practice days, it took an even bitchier Meredith to make me feel sympathy for the odious Amelia Shepherd.
A rose is just a rose.
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ciara99
8 years ago
Ya I'm starting to see where Amelia was coming from with this. It was a few years ago so I'm forgetting some things obviously, but yes it does make sense that they should've been allowed to at least say goodbye. She did come to the decision to pull it pretty quickly!
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