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This movie blackened my heart forever


I was left so utterly devastated by the way this movie presented both our absolute innocence and vulnerability as children and our repugnant selfishness as adults that I honestly contemplated suicide for a while afterward. The incessant loop of frighteningly black thoughts this movie triggered in me brought me almost as close as I've ever been to really ending it all. It was like an emotional curb-stomping, or maybe being run over by a car repeatedly.

I eventually got through the 'hangover'---obviously as I am writing this 4 yrs later---but I still can't even watch it again, and I really hate that because I love to re-watch great movies every couple of years. I'm just too afraid of this one.

Sucks.


Love is made by God. Ignore it and you suffer as you cannot imagine.

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*There are some SPOILERS in this reply*

i know exactly how you feel. I saw this movie by chance with my mother as i was flipping through the our channels whe it came on IFC i think.
Its a loooong movie but totally engaging so much so that we didnt even notice until afterwards. My mother was close to tears mid-movie and the whole time i was trying to hold mine back before anything 'bad' even happened.

Totally depressing, i guess you could say, but in my mind also totally worth the watch. It shines a light on things that happen not just in Japan but around the world and it breaks my heart. Neglect, abandonment, abuse of any kind, its all terrible.
And if you thought this was sad, then you should/shouldnt read about the events that this movie was based off of. A few things are changed, like how the little sister died, which was unfortunately, more gruesome than falling off a chair.

I hope you someday feel better about this movie and to not be afraid of things like this, it happens so much, and those kids, they really cant be scared because thats probably all they're used to.

I think ill go to 3rd world countries and build wells for fresh water...when i have enough money lol



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I remember feeling that way after Lilja 4-Ever; in fact I think this was the most similar thing I've seen in terms of just pure, unadulterated bleakness. Some movies (for example, those korean romances) tug at the heartstrings by piling up pleasures early on, then removing them (say, by way of a character's death) once you've gotten attached; this one is just blackness and pain the whole time.

And after that, well, the game was mine.
— Francis Begbie

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I agree completely.

I watched it a year ago.
I was so depressed, that I wished I had never been born.

tragic real life story....told and acted beautifully.

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(((((((((((((((((((hugs and many prayers))))))))))))))))))))))))) for your peace of mind and soul. please take care of yourself, write to me offlist, if you like. God bless and keep you safe.

Gail

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