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Theory: Toby is straight


After the first time I watched the movie, I thought he was biseksual. But now I have my doubts, because of one scene particulary. At some moment in the car, Bree starts slapping Toby for fun and he pretends his eye is really hurt. And he stars farting with his arm. This made clear he was actually still a child and doesn't really know who he really is (I know, that's weird, but that's the feeling I got with it)

He also mentions he wants kids when he is older and never "does" it with guys if he doesn't get money for it. Drug addicted people will do almost anything for money, it also makes a straight guy do gay activities if neccesary.

Could it be Toby is straight? What are your thoughts?

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But don't forget that he is willing to marry Bree even though he knows that she is a man. He obviously is bi.

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But during the porn scene, he couldn't get erect.

It's a well known fact that kids who have been molested are usually sexually confused, they added all of this in the movie to depict real life.

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Jordy. Many, if not most gay porn actors are straight.



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How would you know? :)

I'm sorry, but someone who has sex with people of their own gender as their job, can't be straight. I mean - does the paycheck make the difference?

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How would YOU know? :)

Are you saying that it doesn't matter which gender to whom you are actually attracted and it doesn't matter that most of the sex you have is with the opposite sex; if you ever have sex with somebody of the same gender (for $3000 a pop!) as a business, then you must be a homosexual?

Many actors in gay porn are even married and have kids, or have real life girlfriends. I know that doesn't necessarily prove anything, but if he's actually gay, and even having gay sex on film, then there's clearly no reason to be in the closet... unless he's actually straight.

I suppose you also think that if a man puts on a dress for Halloween, then he is forevermore a woman?



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On the commentary, the director makes it clear that Toby is a highly sexual being and capable of going either way. Proabably would have had sex with one of the trannies at Mary Ellen's party if the situation came up.

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"And he stars farting with his arm. This made clear he was actually still a child and doesn't really know who he really is"

This sounds like a lot of men. I guess there are lot of men who are still children inside LOL

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I also agree with the fact that he might be straight and that his bisexual or gay experiences and, later on, his part in gay porn, are strictly a "business arrangement".

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The interesting thing about Toby is that he doesnt know what his sexuality is and probably is straight. He was on the streets after an abusive step father experience, and learned to make a living as a hustler of sorts. He just sees gay porn as a way to make a living. He offers to marry Bree, because she is the first person who cared for him. His offer of sex to her demonstrates that even more. He thinks sex is a way to get close to people or get what you want.

This is a display of a highly disfucntional character who had to learn how to cope and it would probably take years for him to break down his barriers to actually figure out what intimacy or love really is.

The end shot of him getting fluffed from the female because he cant get an erection, seems more like a plea from the director to say "hey everyone he isn't really gay, this isn't really a gay film, its about people". Or something along those lines. It was funny, but kind of didnt make sense for the character really. Though I suppose it could be showing he is really not into the whole sex thing he keeps trying to live up to. On that level I think its brilliant :)

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I really got the sense that Toby was bi, though I got the feeling that he might lean towards women if he had his choice, but I'm not sure why I get that impression.

Toby struck me as a very sexual person, in general, though most often in the movie you don't hear him reference sex in relation to his own desire, it was usually tainted... childhood sexual abuse, hustling on the streets for drug money, shooting a porno... the only times he initiates something because of his own interest is when he makes out with the girl in the store and in the scnee where he offers himself to Bree. From what we see in the movie he's not really expressing any real sexual preference towards one sex or the other.

He seems to be pretty comfortable with all sorts of people, or at least comfortable enough to get involved with them, even though it was often in "desperate" situations (needing money) and not out of his own desire.

I know many men who seem to think the idea of doing anything remontely sexual with other men would be impoaaible for them (in fact, in my experience, most straight men feel this way) though most men haven't been through what Toby's been through so who knows what changes in a person under such traumatic circumstances at a young age! So often children who are abused have issues with their own sexual identities. Toby's charatcer's sexuality would be a lot harder to understand without this bit of information.

I thought the scene where he couldn't stay erect while filming the porno was due more to how inwardly distressed he was feeling about the rift in his relationahip with Bree. I'm pretty positive the fluffer was a man, too... I remember noting it specfically, but I must be wrong... now I'm curious... gotta watch it again and check!..... Yeah, it was definately a man.

Good question though! I hadn't really disected this aspect of Toby's character. It was really interesting to think about.

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No, he is a pansexual!

He doesn't really care, as long as he can get sex, he'll do it, such as, why did he choose gay pornogrpahy? He could've easily just have been in straight porn films, yet he chose guys and also through out the film he has sex with an old guy and almost a young girl AND Bree who at the time had both boobs and a penis. He doesn't know what he wants and he doesn't care. He has no sexual preferences, those are my thoughts...

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Gay porn pays about 10 times as much as straight porn. (for guys) That's a pretty good reason for him to choose gay pornography.

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Still, that doesn't means he doesn't enjoy doing it.

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I don't think anything about his sexuality is obvious. He is confused. He doesn't know, so we don't know. In response to Dragoneyed363, he certainly did not seem to be enjoying the gay porn experience. His co-star was very sexy, so if he were totally gay, he obviously would have been in to it. He quite clearly was not (or maybe he just didn't feel comfortable in front of the cameras).

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I think it was because he was missing Bree. Also, if you watch the movie with Duncan Tucker's commentary, he even says himself that Toby is not straight, gay or bi, that Toby just doesn't know and really just will take sex from anything that moves. Duncan Tucker said it himself, so case closed.

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I thought it was pretty obvious that he was straight. Because of what his step-dad did to him and what he had to do to survive in NY, that was all he thought he was good at/worthy of.

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