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Brittbevis, you rock!!!!!

Your right. There are still plenty of normal families. Just not many around here my small world. As a child I remember visiting my uncle's family in Utah. I remember my uncle sitting one of my smaller 12 cousin's down in his lap and litterally saying are you Susie or Julie? They stayed married and all 12 are grown and have families and lead normal lives as far as I know. I look back at my post and was probably in a bad mood. I want what is best for my family... that is for sure. Less is better. That's like Buddism, right, getting rid of all desire, possessions, etc. The media: TV, radio, Sattelite Radio,video games, etc. I was telling my son how reading aloud was the norm before radio and tv. Reading silently with a family was a total waste. This was entertainment. So, many of us have real difficulty reading aloud...hand writing. So much happens mentally when we read aloud especially for the reader. You are seeing the words imagining, intonating, etc. It's an art. Try reading something you have never read to your family (like a classic). I was reading as essay by E. B. White (of Charlotte's Webb fame) to my son called "One more to the Lake" completely impromptu, just trying to get him interested in his book of famous essays while he played Playstation 2. The father and son exchanging places in time and space and the father at the end catching the chill of his mortality. I could not help but tear up and sound like an illiterate by not being able to pronounce words that I have read in my head and not pronounced aloud probably ever. "disillusioned" - without illusion or "unhappy" ... sorry just sounding off.

Interesting. The road to a true 50/50 between men and women doesnt seem any better now than it was then, but we can only go by our own experiences. Personally I have experienced more women around me in the last 10 years doing what men used to do, so I doubt there is a mundane 'standard' anymore. Like I said we can only go by what we experience. My Mother was a TROOPER in what she did with what she had, and what she had to deal with. I think that might be why its still such a shock when I keep seeing male relatives, friends, and co-workers dealing with that same problems now that women had to deal with. I wonder, too, what effect it will have on their kids?

Women either doing NOTHING in the home, or just leaving the family entirely like they could care less. The funniest is when I saw two of these women recently--when they WERE around--complaining (1) there was no clean laundry b/c the guy hadnt fixed the washer yet so HE could do her wash while she was bar hopping, and (2) another one flipping out because the car wasnt fixed yet---because he was making the kids dinner after work while she goes playing on the computer!! Thats just in the last few weeks Im using as an example, but has been common around me. I feel sorry for those guys in the same way I did for my female relatives growing up, theyre similar situations. So now the man is still expected to fill out his traditional roles of bread-winner/repairman/etc AND do the housework, while these women think just being a bread-winner is more than enough and wont fill out THEIR traditional roles--a true reversal that still hurts the family. Double standards are lousy for either sex, and its a shame we seemed to have muddled it even further.

We have to go by individuals now, we cant generalise. Maybe the O.P. had an experience where it seemed more balanced back then, then it does now? Most people are just the same as we were back then--only now its mixed. There are men still doing the same bad things as back then, but now there are women doing the same exact thing.


"Are you righteous? Kind? Does your confidence lie in this? Are you loved by all? Know that I was, too. Do you imagine your suffering will be any less because you loved goodness and truth?" - Corporal Fife, in Malicks' philosophical masterpiece 'The Thin Red Line' (http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0120863/)