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The sunshine family? Abuse?


I read somewhere in another topic that there was a hint towards abuse in the Sunshine family. I don't see this anywhere in the movie?

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you mean you didn't think that the father and the other men were acting like pedos for looking at explicit, naked pictures of aviva? naked pictures, mind you, that were taken of her while she was unconscious?... lord only knows what else dr. dan might have done while she was knocked out and he was "examining" her...

it really makes you wonder whether the sunshines and the rest of the crew were that religiously "fanatical" to the point of stupidity, or that they used their fanatical beliefs as a guise so they could violate the very children they tried to help. it could really go either way.

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Now that I think about, yeah, I do realize that. I first thought it was weird he even took photos of her, but now I ponder a bit more, I see it now.

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i knew there was something in those Jesus tear cookies, it looked like some sort of poison or makes her go unconcious. just a theory, its also just really creepy how friendly they are.

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SOOOOO, when a pre-teen girl has sex (mind you, in most states this is considered statutory rape) with a man that is easily in his fourties, you are all fine and dandy with that. But when a fundamentalist christian family takes in a child- with no hesitation- and has her examined by a MEDICAL DOCTOR who happens to take pictures of what he considers to be sexual abuse (which by the way, doctors and law enforcement alike are REQUIRED by oath to provide evidence of what they consider to be sexual abuse) You think that the family who has her examined by the doctor is envolved in pedophilia? And not the fourty-odd year old guy that had statatory raped her?
There was no hint of child abuse (in most cases -I study this quite a bit) pedophilia is often associated with physical and mental abuse, and is quite often assocated with the parents of the child envolving themselves in sexual exploitations of prostitution and/or exhibitionism.)
Most of the time, children that grow up in these conditions, become unempathetic sociopaths. Many times these children will grow up to be quiet, and hurt things (animals, themselves, others) because they feel they need control over some aspect of their lives. These children did not exhibit these signs or symptoms; So your hypothosis is wrong.
By the way, there is nothing wrong with fanatical christians; you can raise your children the way you want to, and just because all the girls wore long dresses, and the children sang about how much they love god, doesn't mean they are being abused. Granted, sometimes parents that have lived a horrible life do not want that lifestyle for their children and therefore forbid them from doing the things that messed up the parents life to begin with, and sometimes these people take it too far, but there was no indication of child abuse in this film.
Go read a book every once in a while before you post on something you know nothing about.

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So you really didn't get the movie at all, huh?

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Hey Allen, you read a book and take in a seminar or two about real pedophilia, pederasty, and the true pedophile and not child rapist/molesters. The crappe u spouted about how kids who grow up might deal with the abuse is possible as is the opposite. Glad to see that u read a slanted one sided view of the subject. A very Peggy Hill way of learning a subject.

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"SOOOOO, when a pre-teen girl has sex (mind you, in most states this is considered statutory rape) with a man that is easily in his fourties, you are all fine and dandy with that."

The topic is about the Sunshine family, not what occurred between Aviva and Joe/Bob. Do you read thread titles? No? It shows.

"But when a fundamentalist christian family takes in a child- with no hesitation- and has her examined by a MEDICAL DOCTOR who happens to take pictures of what he considers to be sexual abuse (which by the way, doctors and law enforcement alike are REQUIRED by oath to provide evidence of what they consider to be sexual abuse)"

I don't recall anyone--including the medical doctor--alerting any authorities. Also, I don't recall the doctor considering it to be sexual abuse. What I do recall is him saying to Mr. Sunshine, "She's a child-whore." Yes, a child-whore. Implicating that she is a slut, not a victim of sexual abuse.

Also, I don't really consider it to be common practice for a medical doctor to show photos of an unconscious, young girl's vagina--a"child-whore's" vagina--to two other men (neither being the father or legal guardian) in a closed room of a basement. How professional. And of course then Mr. Sunshine proclaims, "I've never had a slut in my house!"

How necessary were photos in this case? What significance is this when it comes to Aviva? Symbolically, these men of violating her. This circle of grown men looking at photos of her "de-virginized" vagina are self-righteous voyeurs engrossed in passing judgment on what is this young girl's personal temple. How invasive and disgusting of them.

I'm pretty sure Mama Sunshine was oblivious to everything--seeing as the doctor made sure to tell Mr. Sunshine first, and not her because he figured she couldn't handle it. Mama Sunshine called Aviva innocent out of ignorance of Aviva's past. Mr. Sunshine calls her a slut because she has a broken hymen. Overtones of a patriarchal household.

"By the way, there is nothing wrong with fanatical christians"

Except that the father of these particular fundamentalists saw to the assassination of a doctor who performed abortions.

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So uh, I know this is late and all...

But will you marry me?

"Tree's don't all grow straight, they grow however makes them happy"-Bob Ross

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I'm pretty sure Mama Sunshine was oblivious to everything--seeing as the doctor made sure to tell Mr. Sunshine first, and not her because he figured she couldn't handle it. Mama Sunshine called Aviva innocent out of ignorance of Aviva's past. Mr. Sunshine calls her a slut because she has a broken hymen. Overtones of a patriarchal household.


Nicely put. My thoughts exactly.

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To me, Mama Sunshine was the most disturbing character of Palindromes. Also I found the most disturbing parts of the movie to be those shot in the Sunshine farm.

There's everything wrong with fanatics- fundamentalism of any and every kind (religious/ ethnic- racial/ ideological) is bad for brain cells. It's worse and deserves to be called for child abuse if imposed on minors in disguise of some parental preferences.


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You're so right. I mean, ALL random truckes her have the right to know when 13 year old girls have changes in their vaginal appearances.

Every trucker should be aware.

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ur an idiot!

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when the jennifer jason lee aviva is asking that they invite the entire Sunshine family to her party, her dad leans in the doorway of kitchen eating and asks her: "wasn't the father indicted?
i think that is the hint. besides that creepy issue of the photos.

"the main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing"

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I thought the father was indicted in connection with the murder of the doctor.

Soo... you care about the opinions of a woman whose pet peeves are sobriety and kindness.

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I think people are looking for excuses to dismiss the Sunshine family as complete hypocrites who do no good at all. But Todd Solondz is refusing to simplistically treat Christian fundamentalists as cartoon monsters--that would be the easy thing to do.

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How I long for the Sunshine Family to be kosher! I don't want that place to be a monsterous den of abuse! Then I realise that even monsters had mothers... or maybe not... I don't know, this film get's under my skin. I suppose the truth is that we are all monsters - and want to put it out on someone else. I just watched Sam Fuller's "The Naked Kiss", where there is a most touching scene of a group of kids on crutches, singing in a hospital ward. In the film, this song was recorded and then played back while Grant, a wealthy Korean veteran, playboy who had funded the orthopoedic hospital, was "grooming" a 6 year old girl I wonder if this scene influenced Solondz with the Sunshine Family.

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People seem to want to read abuse subtexts into any film dealing with family function. I don't think the Sunshine family was meant to be any sort of creepy molester cult. They are the flip side of the coin, those who feel that abortion is wrong and life is sacred; they really feel like they address ills in the world by fighting against it and genuinely wish to spread hope and love. It's no coincidence that most members of the family had some sort of condition that could have (should have?) resulted in a terminated pregnancy. It's kind of a strange indictment of todays world that when a group seems too happy and wholesome, they come off as creepy.

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"I don't think the Sunshine family was meant to be any sort of creepy molester cult. They are the flip side of the coin, those who feel that abortion is wrong and life is sacred; they really feel like they address ills in the world by fighting against it and genuinely wish to spread hope and love. It's no coincidence that most members of the family had some sort of condition that could have (should have?) resulted in a terminated pregnancy. It's kind of a strange indictment of todays world that when a group seems too happy and wholesome, they come off as creepy."

K-Sear, It's not that.

I just want to say that the Sunshine family used those children as props and propoganda tools in their Anti-Abortion Crusade.

Seeing the kids forced to do a choreographer routine where they sang about ending abortion was what pissed me off.
If I were a parent, I would never force my children to be involved in political matters where they are not adults yet.
Especially since the subject matter is abortion.

Bottom line: The Sunshine parents used those children as pawns in their personal war against abortion.

And yes, the father of the family was creepy because he was leering at photographs of a young girl naked.

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That's a reasonable interpretation. While I think this movie was rather sloppy, I find that if it is allowed to have a little bit of wholesomeness, the overall ugliness is moderated.

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Which bit was the "wholesomeness" you mention?


I love the debate that springs up about these characters. What ever anyone says about the film, the fact that people can have such differing views on characters like these means that Solondz has at least in part succeeded in his film making.

Like nearly all of his characters, the Sunshine family are incredibly complex, and can be viewed from many different angles, in many different lights. We are deliberately shown limited, contrasting bits of information, quite out of context, to throw up all manner of suggestions about these people.


One of my favorite scenes in the film is when Aviva's mother is doing the invitations at the end, and the dad keeps pitching in with comments about people. He completely personifies the doubt and speculation that creates these kind of arguments.

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Just the overall closeness and happiness of the family. If you take as if these kids really are happy and loved, it puts a little bit of warmth in the middle of an otherwise ugly movie.

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Errr...

Did we watch the same movie?

"Tree's don't all grow straight, they grow however makes them happy"-Bob Ross

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