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Biggest Flaw with this Movie

posted 9 years ago by cooler56
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The biggest flaw I saw in this movie is that it is a "Love Story" yet we never really see why they love each other. Yes, they hug, and kiss, and do romantic things. But we never actually see where the challenges arise from, the thick and thin of what keeps them together. All we see is that Noah is initially aggressive with Allie, and at some point she caves in and the rest is history. I fail to see how that is love.

Throughout the film we are constantly reminded that they love each other so deeply, and how tragic it is for Allie to forget it slowly. But Noah built a house for her! They must be in love, right? Well that is just an example of how much he loves her. But it doesn't answer the question of why they love each other in the first place. He gives a big speech about how love is never easy, but again, we rarely see their love being challenged in the first place, apart from Allie's meddling parents.

[–] kellicros 8 years ago

He's aggressive, he got her attention, he impressed her, they had fun together, they fell in love. That is exactly what love is. What more do they need to show? Their struggles? How about the parents and their different backgrounds? Her fiance? If those aren't enough, what about the old Noah's efforts to get Allie back for 5 minutes? That put a lot more into Noah's character and explained exactly why Allie fell for him.

[–] flicky-3 8 years ago

Every time I read a post like this (how do we know they love each other?) I'm confused.

What exactly is it that we expect them to do?

You can see the love in THEIR eyes when they look at each other.

They only need to convince each other, not their parents, not the audience, not anyone else.

[–] duongdogg 8 years ago

When you meet the right person everything starts to click and you are in love. It is hard to explain. You just get along.

[–] liscarkat (19427) 2 months ago

I can't define precisely why I fell in love with my wife, and even if I could, it would be difficult to convey in a movie. What would my character do, stand in front of the camera and enumerate reasons? We've been married over four decades and I'm still in love with her, so I suppose it all worked out.

[–] nickatnoon61 (247) 2 months ago

"Take my wife......PLEASE!!!" That's an old joke from the 1950s! (Milton Berle) There is a not so subtle underLYING message there of course, and it's great that your marriage has survived the many similar 'mine fields' in society! I actually was in a group debate, at a pub, in a work camp in 1976 about this subject. The question was, what is a stronger survival desire (instinct) in Mankind? To reproduce, or to eat? I went with to REPRODUCE! Only God knows this 100%,(and Godly people) bcuz He implanted that 'instinct' into us.
Another example of being 'Godly', A couple that puts the other BEFORE themselves, will last much longer than a "SELFish" couple. It's what I call a 'UNIVERSAL' law, with universal meaning very WIDEspread/PROFOUND. Of course that 'way of life' is going extinct too. I've seen it happen in my 71 years on Earth.

[–] nickatnoon61 (247) 2 months ago

Of course there is NO DRAMA in a loving relationship that flourishes, so not many movies are made about that. I went through losing my "love" 44 years ago. Too bad it took me that long to LEARN why! lol "If I knew then, what I know now!?!" This is why I actually ENJOY my "golden years" MUCH more than the years being in the 'race'! (competition). I have 71 years LIFE experience, and I have actually LEARNED from the mistakes I have made over that time.
I've also learned that the very PROFOUND, and beneficial dietary, and health modes that nI have LIVED for a long time, will NOT be grasped by the VAST Godless majority! "The farther people drift from the TRUTH, the more they will hate those who speak it."
I have MANY pieces of the 'puzzle' of life, and the picture it makes is NOT a pretty one.

[–] Destinata (3564) 2 months ago

I think the main problem -- other than Noah looking nothing like James Garner, and they don't explain how the guy with the blond hair became the man with the dark hair, plus his personality is totally different -- is that the young people in the story aren't even likable. In fact, Noah is downright annoying.