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I actually love Stepford and prefered the wives as 'perfect'


I'm a woman, and I loved the flowers, the baking, the etiquette, the style! And, the fact that people (writers, pop culture, etc) like to make fun of that, by making women who are anything like that as being fake or as lacking individualism is quite sad. And, how crude people these days have become! To prefer pushy, grouchy women and wussy, whinny men to friendliness and cozy, elegant style.

I am the movies I love! (^_^)

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And worse, they assume anyone like that is acting like a robot!

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i do all those things and i try to be the best that i can be and i'm not a robot.What i am is a happy and contented wife and mother who enjoys her life. i think they make fun of that because they are jealous.

The easiest thing i have ever had to do was give my heart.

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To be fair the houses were just gorgeous. The neighbourhood was gorgeous too, I certainly wouldn't mind living somewhere like that, what a gorgeous place to live. Beautiful.

But at the end of the day I wouldn't like to think the man I loved had turned me into a mindless cyborg that catered to his every whim and I had no control of my own. Just cos I was more successful than he is. Ridiculous notion.

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I think you missed the point of the film's and more significantly, the novel's satire. It wasn't necessarily criticizing the "Stepford" lifestyle, instead it was the fact that these women were stripped of any kind of free will or choice. They were completely forced into the situation they found themselves in by the men in their lives, they didn't choose to lead that kind of lifestyle.

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It wasn't necessarily criticizing the "Stepford" lifestyle, instead it was the fact that these women were stripped of any kind of free will or choice. They were completely forced into the situation they found themselves in by the men in their lives, they didn't choose to lead that kind of lifestyle.


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Your friend sounds like she really has got it all. I'm very impressed she can get so much done. Im a terrible cook, can never keep the home tidy-I really do try- and just generally am not even close to A Stepford Wife. To be honest I'm pretty happy with that. :)

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She told me that there were three qualities that were important to her husband: that she be a good cook, that she keep an immaculate house and that she keep her figure and she's done all three things.

And if she was ever less than perfect in any one of those areas then what? Her husband would love her less? That seems very superficial.

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Yeah, not so sure your friend's husband isn't a bit of a douche, to be honest. I don't know the guy, but you don't set your wife ground rules on what she has to do and be, that isn't equality, nor love, nor respect.

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I hope her husband keeps his figure

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Haha, ditto!!

"I'm a woman, Mary. I can be as contrary as I choose." - The Dowager Countess (Downton Abbey)

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And, how crude people these days have become! To prefer pushy, grouchy women and wussy, whinny men to friendliness and cozy, elegant style.


Darling, people were crude back in the "good old days" too. For some reason, loads of people are under the absurd notion that people who lived before the before 1970 were all like June and Ward Cleaver and every town was like Mayberry. Those people and towns surely existed as they do today but there were still murders, rapes, pedophiles, adulterers, unwed mothers and any other "crude" thing you can fathom. People were merely less overt about things. We're also more connected with the world which makes it appear that every thing is going to hell. It's not. We're just more aware of the world around us and the media loves to focus on the bad things because, at our core, we're bloodlusty creatures who would rather read about the glitchy details of a murder than a man saving children from a fire.

There were also pushy, grouchy women and wussy men before that dastardly women's lib came along. I find it startling that other women think they have to make a choice - be a mindless Stepford wife or be some militant, frigid cow. The point of feminism wasn't to draw a line between the two but to give women a choice. If you want to be a cooking powerhouse who keeps an immaculate house and lives to please your children and husband - great! If you want high flying career - great. One choice isn't better than the other except to the person who makes the choice.

And yes, you missed the entire point of this satirical film. If you don't like your partner, change him or her. Don't force a person into indentured servitude to please yourself.

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