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This brought back bad memories...a confession

posted 8 years ago by rixter
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I can identify with the Mark character. Many years ago I was in love with my best friend's girl. She was beautiful, a young Jane Seymour look-a-like. Though I never expressed my feelings, I think she knew. I was even the best man in their wedding and my wife was maid of honor. Even though my marriage wasn't particularly strong at the time, I was still wracked with guilt. I didn't want to jeopardize my friendship or my marriage so I kept quiet. And, as sometimes happens with friends, we drifted apart over the years. They moved away to another city and we barely stayed in touch. My friend died a few years ago. And watching the scene with Juliet and Mark watching his videotape of the wedding is painful still. Because I know what he was going through and the guilt he was feeling. Sometimes movies brings up past experiences in your personal life that are painful to watch. Can you share your experiences? Sorry this post is such a downer.

[–] lwangels0 8 years ago

I've never been in love with a friends partner/spouse. That must be horrifically painful. Do you mind me asking, are you still married?

"What you don't like rice? Tell me Michael, how can a billion Chinese people be wrong?"

[–] rixter 8 years ago

Amazingly, for 45 years, and never been better than it is now. I guess there's a moral to the story there.

[–] BigHeadFred 8 years ago

Wow. Good for you and your wife. My husband's best friend fell in love with me. It was hard because at the time my husband and I were not together. But we got back together and their friendship fell apart. Sadly my husband held no ill will against his friend and tried to continue the friendship but it was too hard for his friend. I am happy to say that as of a year ago they have rekindled their friendship and are back to their bi-weekly boys night. I will always love his friend, but as a friend. It was never more than that for me. And yes, my husband and his friend know that.

You sound like a good man :)

[–] ElphieDefyingGravity 8 years ago

Not a downer at all!

My husband was my first love. He dumped me very unceremoniously and married someone else. I was heartbroken, yet went on to change my life. Went to college, had an amazing job, changed everything about myself and still, I never forgot him or how deeply I loved him.

A few years later we met again. His marriage had ended in divorce. Now it was me who wasn't sure I wanted to commit. But I did. Thirty years later, we are still married, happy and the parents of five, grandparents of four.

Love really can be corny and unbelievable and triumphant.

Et lux perpetua luceat eis