I have it!!!!!
I finally figured it out!
You see, when the people go into the town of Weaver their normal, but when they don't come out, they go all Stepford, and go to the Diner down the road. The reason why is because the things in the town are aliens. The so-called Neutron Bomb test site was really caused by the downed UFO which hit the ground with such a force, it caused the sand to turn to glass.
The aliens have the power to switch bodies with the people who come to town, and then eventually kill their original selves which now have the people they abducted inside them, who are now in those four fresh graves. Ethan was the alien in the mine trying to get to Patty and Matt before they left him behind, yet they didn't know it was him because he was in the alien body.
The one that tried to stop them in the road was a regular alien trying to switch bodies with them, and the ones that surrounded them switched bodies, and killed the Henley family. That's why at the end, Matt and Ethan aren't even shoting at a basket, and Kate's headphones aren't attached to a CD player. I hope that made sense.
Leave it to Beaver...and you'll be sorry you did!