Why was anyone friends with Betty??

She's like a lot of girls, to be honest, and people do remain friends with them.

I don't know perhaps they just tolerate it because they know there is good inside a person, even though they may not show it that often. And she does improve at the end of the film so I think it was the pressure of marriage and conformity that made her act the way she did, she took her frustration out on Connie especially because she was jealous of her freedom and happiness.

*I'm your stranger ... Jump!*

I believe they were friends because she's popular and influencial. She's basically in the same room with them and just tolerates her for being mean.

My belief, based on the fact I'm friends with someone like this and I wonder all the time why I'm friends with her, is that Betty is the kind of girl who can make you feel on top of the world one moment but then her insecurities take hold and she has to take it out on her friends to make herself feel powerful. Just like Betty, my own friend has a lot of friends and everyone likes her, but she hurts people very easily. It's like the scene in which she tells Connie that Charlie is with Deb - "I'm only saying this because I love you" - when you're friends with someone like that your better instincts tell not to turn to that person for the truth, but you believe them anyway. It's something in the way they say it. You just can't help it. :/

It's not because she's a malicious person, she's not doing it consciously and I think Giselle recognizes this, such as during Betty's breakdown when she starts screaming Giselle and then starts sobbing and falls into her arms. Giselle knows Betty just says these things to mask her own fears, hurt, and insecurities.

Much love and BIG KISSES,
Steph

Warning: I SPAM

PERKELE!!!

[deleted]

I hate Betty! I am surprise the group of friends even like her at all. At the end, I wasn't satisfied with Betty with the whole supposed redeeming herself and everything. I thought the movie didn't really portray the changes in her well at all.

I am a "slam-door" type of person.. infj so I don't have friends like Betty at all. I don't understand why people would tolerate people like her. I want to have positive energies when I am with friends, not someone like Betty!

There are some good answers here, but here are my thoughts:

I think the biggest reason is that they all lived in dorms and shared rooms with each other. Wasn't Joan, Betty's roommate? That explains everything. All the girls would hang out in each other's rooms, and Betty was just...there. That makes the most sense.

Not to mention Betty was the straight A student who wrote in a paper and did all the "little miss perfect" things.

And lastly...this movie is about Julia Roberts opening up the student's minds and giving them strength. In the beginning, they all knew Betty was cranky, but they just kinda tolerated it because her ways of thinking were the norm of the school.

As the movie progressed, ideas became challenged...Betty began to see how close minded and unhappy she really was. Even she began to revolt against her mom and her marriage.

i saw her as a product of her mother's manipulative and snobby leanings. but she did need a little more development for her to be a well rounded person. i think people were friends with her because she was popular and maybe on a superficial level, could get on with her on the light topics

--------------------------------------------

let's not go to camelot, it is a silly place

She's that friend many people have that they dont particulary like. They have their redeeming qualities but they often remind you why you keep them at arms length. Betty was pretty, rich, and had personality. It's obvious why she had friends, it's just that her friends didnt really like her much.