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i didn't cry

posted 17 years ago by stranded_desert
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ok so i just saw the movie and yes, it's incredibly sad and heartbreaking, but i just couldn't cry. it really didn't affect me nearly enough... for example, i have no idea which parts people even cried at. and it's not like i'm a person who cannot cry in movies- i SOBBED in 'dancer in the dark'- it just... i don't know. it didn't really affect me. at the end of the movie i was just kind of like, "oh. that's sad". but i didn't really FEEL sad....

anyone feel the same way?

or do i seriously need to watch this movie again?

[–] bcdc1984 17 years ago

I didn't think this was so much a "cry" movie but I did find it very disturbing. With that said, it also made me feel blessed to live in a country where a sizable majority really have no clue what poverty is unless they watch a movie like this. There are many scenes where emotions such as sadness,anger, and sympathy do emerge within the viewer.

This was one of those movies, that after watching, I sat and thought about quite a bit. I imagine that may have been the intent of the director.

[–] Disarmed-Doll-Parts 17 years ago

I didn't cry, but I rarely do. I agree with bcdc, it made me stop and think, and enfuriated me at the treatment of people, but I didn't cry.

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[–] blonde_chick15 17 years ago

Yeah i have to agree with you. I'm a person who usually gets affected by movies quite easily....but it didnt happen for me either. i found i was more shocked and in ore of what was happening to Lilya. In no way is this comment to bring down the acting of 'Lilya', she was amazing in this role!!!!

hmm i was just thinking it may have to do with the lack of feeling and empathy shown by all characters. Overall the characters were very cold and not phased by the situations presented in the movie. I think if anyone had come to help 'Lilya' and shown some empathy i would have cried. But this didnt happen. Does anyone agree with me? Just my opinion!

I really enjoyed this movie and maybe i should watch it again :)

[–] onli_hope 17 years ago

i guess that shows how easily somehting can make me cry =O
i also realise now that there was a lack of feeling or empathy shown by all characters, the men were soo.. well, lets say i was turned off by males or the thought of sexual relationships for a while after i watched it. I even truly considered chastity because that movie made sex feel so.. well, i can't find the words atm.
Often i felt so frustrated that she didn't do certain things that could have helped her escape, yet when she did... she chose to commit suicide. I would've liked to see her change her life and have the movie end with her just dying of old age and reuniting with Volodja. But, i guess life isn't that sweet. As this movie made me truly realise
I guess it was the things that Volodja said and did that made me cry. I really liked the movie despite its often disturbing scenes, when i feel disgustingly angry at my life, i'll watch this movie again.. when i find it on dvd or something.
question: what were your thoughts after you watched it?

[–] myruin14 17 years ago

i agree, i didnt cry either but was almost brought to tears watching the scenes with Volodja. very sad

[–] wishart188 17 years ago

Nah. You probably don't need to watch this movie again if it didn't hit your soft spot the first time round.

The movie's portrayal of characters and story of Lilja were poignant and tragic. But it didn't move me like some other movies do. I mean, I felt sad after watching it... but not moved or touched. Compared to watching "Lars and the Real Girl" (most recent movie that I watched and cried)... this movie had a happy ending but I actually cried a little during the movie.

The feeling I got at the end of the Lilja 4-ever movie? Yeah... kinda "oh, that's sad". But also feeling that while it was perhaps an escape for her to die, still, she could've put up a stronger fight than to give up like that.

Anyway, I still enjoyed the movie anyway. It made me appreciate about my living... no matter how mediocre and uneventful it is.

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[–] btgranard 17 years ago

i was more angry than sad to i mean yes this movie was sad and the story was sad but idk i was reading about it before i saw it and people said that it was more sad and depressing than requiem for a dream so that made me think that it was going to be overwhelmingly sad i think i gave it to high of expectations as i have every depressing movie since i saw requiem for a dream.

[–] Dismenot 17 years ago

I swear to God if I had seen someone abusing a girl right after watching this I would've beat him to death.

Wow! I had to scroll almost to the bottom of the thread to find someone that felt the way I did. lol

But I was sad as well, this movie brought out the tears for me, knowing that it's based on a real girl didn't help much.

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[–] xrebecca00 17 years ago

i didnt cry either but i felt bad dread watching the end scenes and i felt really affected after i finished it

[–] twitchyhug 17 years ago

I did. The ending hit me pretty hard, and I really related with how much she missed Volodja. I actually staggered around my house after it ended, crying forcefully until my eyes burned. But that's just me ^_^

[–] icaptainchaos 15 years ago

(spoiler) I must admit, I'm a "tough" middle-aged bloke with 2 kids about Lilja & Volodya's age, but I had to wipe a tear away when she stood on the bridge at the end ... I was just thinking "no, please don't, please don't" ... also the bit when Volodya took all the tablets and was just lying dead in the stairwell ... so so sad ...

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[–] aurolacul2004 15 years ago

"... also the bit when Volodya took all the tablets and was just lying dead in the stairwell ... so so sad ... "

Yeah that is what really got to me, him lying on the stairwell dead while the old woman told him to get up. I smashed my DVD remote on the floor crying while screaming: He's fu**ing dead you bitch!

[–] hairplay-1 17 years ago

i almost cried at the very end when she died and had a chance (in her heaven) to tell the guy off, help the old woman she was always rude to, and play with her friend... i didn't, but i almost did and that's saying enough i guess.
great movie.

[–] BlackMagikWoman 17 years ago

i cried. poor girl never had a chance.

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