Wow Jon, lot's of wrong with that post. This movie plain and simple continues to make the gay community especially gay women look bad. LOT'S of homosexuals hated this movie because obviously a gay person having sex with someone of the opposite gender/sex would NEVER happen in real life. It's important to have positive representations of marginalized groups in the media, but this film; including many other films are continuing to make it worse.
There is nothing wrong with having a stereotypical "womanly personality". Or having "estrogen overload". Shame that there is still so much femmephobia in this world.
"And it's still a mans world isn't it."
Unfortunately.
"Affleck's character sheds all his manly charcteristics and testosterone and his personality/emotions become that of a woman. Lopez is man enough for the both of them, or so she thinks. Lopez is always in control. Affleck is able to give her what her lesbian partners give her. It's not about straight or gay, like Afflecks's mother said, life isn't black and white like that."
Well the main problem with that is that, obviously in real life, a man would NOT be able to give a gay woman what they need since of course, they are only attracted to women, and only want to be with a woman, only desire women, only satisfied with a woman, etc.. etc.. Another reason this movie made no sense. That would be like a "straight" guy, who all of a sudden finds another man attractive and starts sleeping with them. Or a gay guy who starts to desire another woman. Can you actually imagine that happening? So for Affleck to "give her what her lesbian partners give her" is pretty ridiculous. Since the whole point of being a homosexual is that a person of the opposite sex, obviously CAN'T give a gay person what they want. Since the gay person would have no desire for that person anyway. And straight/bi/other queer men might have fantasies about watching lesbians, but in real life obviously lesbians don't want to be watched, especially by men. They are just minding their own business. For some reason, some people are unwilling to believe that fact that gays and lesbians are no different from each-other. After all lesbian means; homosexual female.
And when did Affleck's mother say that?
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ffordegroupie
10 years ago
"obviously a gay person having sex with someone of the opposite gender/sex would NEVER happen in real life."
except for all the times it does happen, which is a lot more commonly than people admit.
"gay" is a label for some people's sexuality, and sometimes that sexuality moves so a person who IDs as gay ends up falling for an opposite sex person, same as some "straight" people who fall for a same sex partner. insisting something "never" happens is not realistic about sexuality becuz it's too complex and too tied in personal connections and emotions to be absolute.
and then there's the "i want sex so I'll settle for a person who isn't in my usual orientation" people, which happens with both gay and straight people. and of course, some people who are bisexual will ID as gay or straight depending on which way they lean more, bc frankly both gays and straights crap all over them so it's just easier to use those labels.
in conclusion, most people are bisexual to at least a small degree, probably most to a larger one, but our society wants everybody in the binary. things AREN'T black and white.
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