Fighting the Inevitable

As I read through these posts and messages, and many other articles trying to promote plus size beauty, I have some food for thought:

I must start out by saying that I am a male in my mid twenties who is more attracted to plus size women than thinner ones. My girlfriend and soulmate of three years is plus size. A fuller figure generally is more appealing to me.

Anyway, like many other topics and issues in the country, I strongy believe that things are taken way too far. What I mean is that just because the media or the public does not recognize a specfic idea (plus sized women in this case) more than another, should not/does not mean that they're being "picked on," so to speak. Every situation is going to have a minority side to it. Nothing will ever be exactly 50/50 but that is what I feel like people try to do. People try so hard to balance things out so that nobody's feelings are hurt in the end. Just accept things for how they are. Religion, race, gender, and sexual orientation are constantly an outrage for equal rights and equal publicity. I guess I can see where those attitudes come from to an extent. The simple fact that there weren't equal rights for the different minority groups years ago has opened up doors for equality nowadays. But on the other hand, what have plus size women lost out on that they must strive for equality? Publicity? Media attention? Modeling shoots? Who cares? None of these ideas are THAT important or relevant for movement in life. Just because the word "diet" is used in more references than plus-size women can handle, does not mean that dieting should be obsolete. The fact remains that if you're heavier, then you're more prone to health hazards than if you were thinner.

Another point I would like to bring up before I forget is that "non-plus size" women does NOT necessarily mean malnourished/unhealthy/anorexic by any means what-so-ever. I always read the exact same thing in any full figured fashion article. "I'd rather eat my chocolate cake than to be a 'bag of bones," is typically what attitude is generally portrayed. Nevermind the horrible choice of words and the name calling but wouldn't they want to be the better person? Are all thin women really malnourished, anorexic, and display unwomanly figures? Not in the slightest. That is just as much a stereotype as the media refraining from heavier women as a "sex symbol." The mention of "curves" is always accompanied by trying to prove that full figured women are more curvaceous than smaller women. How do they figure? Women naturally have wide hips to bear children, right? So wouldn't it be safe to say that thinner women who have a flat stomach, thinner physique, and average sized breasts show more "curves" than a woman who has more "meat" on her bones? If you add the fat to the female body, it just evens the figure out from shoulders to hips. Females with far less "meat" have skin tight to the bone, creating an image of exactly how their shape and body structure is outlined.

Women who watch what they eat, go to the gym, and play sports are generally more healthier and fit than the full figured women who claim the same attitude as the next, "No one is going to tell me to diet." What is wrong with watching your weight? Is that really how they think or is it just making a statement for the plus-size industry? I am not trying to degrade larger women at all. Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes and all attributes of the female body. I just feel like there are some double standards that need to be recognized when arguing a point. Just because thinner women are the norm for the current generation, does not wave a red flag and call for a stand from ones who feel picked on. I notice a lot of times when I am reading articles from plus size fashion, that there are comparison photos side by side. First there is the beautiful, perfectly proportioned full figured woman looking proud of her figure. Along side her, a bony, twig-like, flat chested, anorexic woman who looks like she hadn't eaten or smiled in days. Is that really a fair comparison?? Think about it. They're taking possibly the worst looking thin woman of all others and placing her along side a beautiful voluptuous, happy-go-lucky goddess of the plus size fashion. How is that fair? That would be like an equivilant comparison from a thinner sized modeling company showing the best looking, full breasted, flat-stomached, gorgeous model who happens to be a size 3 pictured next to a disproportionate, sloppy, triple chinned large woman who shows self conciousness in her attitude. I can see the plus industry with its flames of rage foaming at the mouths. But what goes around comes around. If a woman wants to work out to keep her body in shape, watch what she eats, and stays thin, why would she be judged as "just another malnourished girl?" In fact, full figured females who tend to steer away from dieting, working out, or doing anything that fits their stereotype of smaller women, only shows negligence on their part. To love your body and try to take care of it would mean more to actually watch your weight and not have that extra piece of cake, than to say "to hell with it, I am not living the way they tell me to." You can only accept failure if you allow it. If you don't like to look at all the thin celebrities in Hollywood, simply shut the TV off. Don't read what you don't want to. Nobody is forcefully shoving your head in the book to read what you don't care for or don't agree with.

"REAL Women Have Curves?" Yes they do. But, don't ALL women have curves?? Isn't that what sets apart a male from a female? So what exactly is the point that's trying to get across? What is wrong with "Women With Curves are Beautiful." Something less blunt and controversial. The whole mention of curves is obviously pertaining to heavier women, ones without a flat stomach. I don't think I'm far from the truth.

In conclusion, although my personal preference in size is totally irrelevant to my argument, I felt compelled to state my ongoing thoughts regarding this topic, and many topics of ones who feel attacked. Being discrete is what I consider sacred. Love yourself for who you are, what you have, and how people perceive you (be it good or bad), but don't stir up major controversy just because you feel left out. What's next, not enough green-eyed models in the industry? Things get to be so silly. Take things for what they are. Nothing will ever be completely equal or fair. Life isn't made that way.

All types and sizes of women can be equally as attractive.