Would you let her marry the baby's father and move into your house with him? Would you do all the things Reba did for Cheyenne and Van? I'm just curious what people think about this and how they think they would handle the situation.
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I would definitely let baby daddy come live with us if that is what they both wanted. However, I wouldn't let them marry so soon after finding out. I would have them wait until the baby is born and see how things go after baby is here and if they were still together and in this together I would allow them to marry. And they could live at home with me as long as they needed.
I wouldn't. I have to be honest here. I wouldn't let him live with us at all especially if they are not married. I know they are having a child together but I still wouldn't allow that though. I wouldn't allow it if I had a daughter who was grown and got pregnant by her boyfriend and needed a place to stay: She could stay with the baby but he can't. Now if they got married they could stay but only until they graduated high school then they would have to find their own place to live. If you're grown enough to have a family then you are grown enough to find your own place to live. Damn I'm sounding like my mom right now, LOL!
But anyway them staying there in reality can turn into too much of a permanent situation to the point where you are getting taken advantage of. It reminds me of the Boy Meets World episode where Cory and Topanga thought they could move in with his parents and they wisely said no since if they were grown enough to make the decision to get married then they need to be grown enough to not live with them.
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See I am all for him living with us and being a part of the babys life especially if he is stepping up and not slacking. However, if they are in high school I wouldnt allow my daughter to get married like Reba did. Sorry that is not happening. You may live with me that is fine. But I wouldn't allow marriage until after graduating high school and starting careers.
shareIt reminds me of the Boy Meets World episode where Cory and Topanga thought they could move in with his parents and they wisely said no since if they were grown enough to make the decision to get married then they need to be grown enough to not live with them.
Agree with this.
shareThis is a sensitive topic for me right now, my daughter just turned 18 and is 3 months pregnant, argh. She is living with her dad and step mom and will continue living there, or with me if she chooses, as long as she needs to. Unfortunately the baby dad is not a great guy so we're trying to figure out how to handle that. If they were together and he was a decent person than yes, I would allow him to live with us, with conditions of course, and no marriage. There's nothing grown up about getting drunk at a party and ending up pregnant, marriage is a mature decision for grown ups to make when they are ready for that step, not a consequence of getting pregnant. Our goal is to make sure my grandchild is well taken care of, my daughter finishes college, and they are put on the road to a good life in spite of this setback. I'm still trying to come to terms with being a "grandma" at this point, I'm just turning 40 this month!
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I am starting to think that not only should birth control be an option, but there are times it should be mandatory. Man, I am getting old lol.
shareAbsolutely not. The daughter and child could come home, yes - the baby's dad can fend for himself.
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No. I would kick my daughter out of my home if she got pregnant and I would kick my son out if he got somebody pregnant.
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Letting the father move in would not be an ideal situation, however, I think in some ways it would actually be easier to just allow it than to have the baby and the father (assuming the father is a good guy like Van) living in different houses.
I would definitely make him earn his keep though.
Letting the father move in would not be an ideal situation, however, I think in some ways it would actually be easier to just allow it than to have the baby and the father (assuming the father is a good guy like Van) living in different houses.
I would definitely make him earn his keep though.
I have 3 teen boys and would encourage them to finish high school and look at adoption as an option. Adult marriages have a very high divorce rate imagine what the odds are for teens. If adoption was not an option then I would expect our sons to still finish school, get a part-time job and be as supportive to the girl as possible, but live at home and not with her. If at 18 they want to get married, as they are legal adults by that point, then so be it. Remember, this is a TV show however in reality we would not support them as Reba and Brock had and certainly not to the extent that the other kids were pushed aside, ( Kyra and her scholarship ). Also, Van's not working during his " bummed about not playing football" would not fly in our home, get a job anywhere, fast food, etc., they wanted to get married, it's not a game and marriage and a baby is adult stuff.
shareI would let them get married for sure. People don't take marriage vows seriously anymore, and if they were that in love/lust and it resulted in a pregnancy then they should be adults and support each other. It's not that hard. People aren't perfect as they said. If they were that mature enough to have sex, then they are certainly mature enough to get married (it's NOT just a piece of paper! It ensures that the baby has a stable place to grow up in and the relationship is also stable , meaning for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer, that kind of stuff. Plus, marriage has the benefit of not spreading around stds so I really don't know why people think marriage is a bad idea. They are so immature.)