Marriage is supposed to be a vow of a lifetime of devotion. When you take away the "forever" aspect and marry a girl that's going to die in a few months, that loses its value.
Basically you're telling everybody this is the girl you're going to bang as much as you can over the summer before she drops. Isn't that really inappropriate??
So about as long as a normal Christian marriage lasts when you marry that young. Don't judge. If she wants some sexual pleasure in her last months, let her. Why should she have to die a virgin because of your judgement of "inappropriate"? Like, have a heart for once and quit trying to make everyone miserable and ashamed of their own existence. And FYI the bible supports polygamy. No reason he can't have sex with one for three months and then move on to the next. So spare me the moral outrage.
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I'm all for having sex before, during, and after a marriage.
The moral dilemma is for a man to marry a woman who refuses to have sex before marriage, given that she's going to die in a few months. They might as well just bang, as the marriage means nothing.
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The marriage kinda means something, I dunno. It's basically asking god's permission to bang. I don't believe in gods, but you know what I mean. From what I gathered, that's the main reason to get married, so you can bang without offending god. Something tells me I wouldn't turn her down. Probably 'cuz I'm a man. It's too convenient, she's already bed-ridden so what else would she do for fun? And god will even take care of the abortion, if you time it right. Loopholes are a staple of Christian theology. How is that anything different from what Jesus did to get us into heaven?
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shareLandon was so totally in love with Jamie by the end of the movie (or book), he would do anything for her. He would build her a telescope from scratch so she could better see a comet she very much wanted to see. Since marriage was at the top of her wish list, he'd marry her -- with love, not sex, as his motivation. In the book Jamie was so sick she could barely leave her wheelchair for the wedding ceremony, so it's even doubtful they even had sex before...
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Ah, fair enough. I just think a lot of people would get the wrong message, that's all.
I mean, if you watched this movie and was convinced that, at the end, all Landon wanted was to have sex with Jamie and that's why they got married, then you really missed, well, the entire point of the movie.
sharei agree with this. maybe in the film, we're supposed to believe they consummated after, but in the book, no way. a) she wouldn't be strong enough and b) i'm almost positive landon would be scared to hurt her. he did it to grant the last wish of the woman he loved. that's all.
shareThat's pretty much what I was going to say. I'd also like to add that Jamie's #1 wish was to be married in the same church as her parents.
shareThinking about it,would it been much better if she was given a few years left,so therefore Landon wanted to marry her to enable to have a child,so there love together would of been that legacy instead.
share"Tis better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all." - Alfred Tennyson
shareI really didn't see the point in them getting married...they already had a deep and caring relationship, and as you pointed out, she was going to die in a few months. And he would be a widower at age 18.
shareMaybe some crazy girls think that's hot: "ooh look that poor romantic boy got married at 18 and then his wife died of cancer, I'd like to cheer him up..."
Maybe Landon was on to something..
I agree with several of the other members on here, that the marriage (as should be marriage in general) should not be and wasn't based on sex. It was her number 1 on her list (not for sexual reasons, but for love.) And I have read the book as well, and I also doubt that they even consummated the marriage. Real love is more, it's deeper than sex. And in most vows, you pledge love until death do you part. Do any of us know when that is? People die young all the time. There is no promise of tomorrow. In a marriage, it's important to cherish each day because the next day isn't promised.
Landon truly loved her more than he loved himself, and because he knew she didn't have much time left, so he wanted what time she did have to be as good as it could. He wanted her to experience everything that she could before her time was up, which meant accomplishing as many of the things on her bucket list as possible. When you truly love someone (a pure, selfless love) you want that person to be as happy as possible. You want as much for them as possible. He wasn't doing anything for himself. But also, marrying her was also his way of reminding her that he wasn't going anywhere (as he said after he found out she was sick.)
Jamie told him that he was her angel, and he pretty much implied that she was his (she saved me.) They helped each other, which is what you do in a marriage. You help each other in life, you support each other. Jamie made Landon a better person, and Jamie found the hope and strength she needed in her final days. They improved each other,which is what marriage is supposed to be about.
Marriage is an artificial idea by humans and religious people suck at it even more than those who do it for the right reasons.
The right reasons are not scripted. In the end, it doesn't matter at all. Only the real feelings matter. They married for symbolism and to quiet her *beep* father and her own indoctrination. It was also likely something really meaningful and special to her the way most women view marriage whether they are delusional about it or not. Neither of them were here. They knew what was going to happen. It was a nice gesture and he took it well.
What's inappropriate is fathers or religion dictating a woman's actions like he has authority over her. That's *beep* up.
It was likely Jamie's death wish. I heard on the news about an 18 year old dying girl, who had cancer marry her boyfriend. Only to die a couple months later.
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