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Could you imagine if a gender reversed remake was made of this?


The women's rights groups would want the filmmakers put in jail!

Sure, it's not right for a man to hit a woman. But the opposite is no better.

It's understandable that society scorns men who hit women. But for some reason, they're surprisingly tolerant of it when a woman hits a man.

Note that I exclude self defense cases. That's a different story. But they even scorn men who retaliate against their physically abusive wives/girlfriends. When a man retaliates against his abusive wife/girlfriend, this somehow magically erases anything she did wrong. He is the abuser, and she is the victim, even though she beat him first.

I'm not saying society is too hard on woman beaters, but they need to show the same level of scorn to women who abuse men.

Case in point: In the real world, after he beat Rihanna, Chris Brown instantly became the poster boy for men who beat women. It's very hard to find an article about him that came out since then which doesn't at least briefly bring up him beating Rihanna.

A few years later, actress Emma Roberts beat up her boyfriend. Since then, the overwhelming majority of articles about her make zero reference to her being an abusive girlfriend. It got swept under the rug, while people STILL bring up Chris Brown beating Rihanna, even now.

Anyways, back on track...

Yes, I know Jennifer Lopez's character in this movie was a victim who retaliated against her abusive husband in self defense. But if a gender reversed remake of this came out where there was a battered husband who had his wife viciously beating him, only to have him retaliate at the end, the women's rights groups would denounce this as a misogynistic movie that should be illegal. The male character would be denounced as a coward and a murderer, not a hero who stood up for herself like Jennifer Lopez's character in Enough. Even though the stories would be more or less the same.

And for those of you who think I am sexist...I am not. I know women who believe that society is too tolerant of women beating men, and should be as harsh on them as they are on woman beaters.

My point is that a woman who beats a man deserves every bit of scorn that a man who hits a woman does. Abuse is abuse is abuse...it doesn't matter what gender the abuser is or the victim is.

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You make some good points. I think in general that society has a difficult time believing that women can be abusers because they are usually built smaller. And men are much less likely to report abuse by a woman because they don't want people to think of them as being weaker than a woman. There was a movie made some years ago that tried to shine the light on that problem. It was called Men Don't Tell.

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The biggest flaw in your rant about a reversal Enough movie is that most men wouldn't NEED to become trained in fighting or self defense in order to fight the woman off.
Yes we all know some women hit men too, but no one can deny that the woman cannot physically stop that man from leaving if he wanted to. That woman cant drag him back home by his hair etc.
If she had a gun, maybe, but even then she can't keep the gun pointed at him 24/7. And if he had to kill her or be killed i highly doubt women's groups would be up in arms.

It's a lot of double standards in life. There's double standards that women cant shake, so i dont really entertain men complaining about unfavorable double standards that they have to deal with.

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My ex wife was a big girl and kinda scary when she would go nuts (she was supposedly bipolar) so there were times when she would hit me and I wouldn't retaliate. Especially when she started the divorce precedings, she physically blocked the doorway so that I would have to touch her to get by and I immediately saw that as a tactic by her crooked female lawyer to try to entrap me or accuse me of abuse. In the end the tactics were moot but it's scary for a guy to see how little control we have when the woman is done.

One time she was super trashed and fell in the garage. She ended up with a black eye and I was so very lucky she didn't use that to her advantage. Now of course all of her co-workers called me a wife beater but in the end she went to rehab because as the therapist said, if you get a black eye and you don't know how you got it when you're drunk, then you belong in rehab

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