I felt he may have held on to tight to his wife and forced her to stay in a situation that she needed to escape from. I know it was not done purposely but i could not stop saying dude let her go... did any of you see it this way or do you feel she was doomed no matter what she they did.
I think the key scene was at the train station. Until then he had been managing her life too tightly. She levels with him that she can't take it anymore, and would choose death over the life he's made for her. He pauses and then says "Right, London then." She is surprised and incredibly touched that he capitulated. He suffers greatly in giving in, but he does it because he loves her, come what may. She lives another 18 years and does kill herself, but writes him that final letter of love. His devotion to her is pretty wonderful. She seems to think so too.
No, I got the sense that he genuinely had her best interests in mind. Even if what he provided for her was a life of shelter and discontent, leaving her to own devices for the shortest period carried too high a risk. I don't think he gets any of the blame.
At the time doctors were very into the idea of a "rest cure," so that had some bearing on why they moved to the country. The distractions and excitement of life in London seemed to bring on Virginia's bad spells or make them worse and contributed to the sleeplessness that was also driving her mad.
But also in Richmond Leonard set up Hogarth Press at their home so they could self-publish her books. Until then she was published by her stepbrother Gerald Duckworth's firm. He seemed to be kind of an obnoxious character in some ways and in fact had sexually molested her when she was 6 years old and he was in his late teens. She didn't like being published and edited and censored by him, so living in the country gave her more freedom and allowed her to do the kind of stream of consciousness writing she always wanted to experiment with. She could even design her own book jackets and have her sister Vanessa do the artwork for them.
I don't really think that Leonard was oppressing her unduly, even if he could be somewhat controlling, and that famous beautiful letter she wrote to him near the end of it all says that he had been "entirely patient" with her and that any happiness she was able to have was because of him.