It seems to be possible that BOTH of these kids' parents were murderers!

Okay, hear me out: I'm referring to the father killing people and getting killed himself on the front lines as well as I'm referring to Grace going insane, killing her children and killing herself and I'm probably going to take some flack about how I don't understand how war would work because I'm not in the military; and I can't fathom the hellish conditions what they went through; and I know that I'm also probably going to get reamed for not actually watching the movie, just watching bits and pieces of it, I'm used to it, but that's neither here nor there. What we know that happened is Nicole Kidman thinks it's still the year 1940's her husband will eventually come home and it's going to be like he never left, the two children will be raised and her headaches will end. Okay; what she actually thought was a recurring nightmare turned out to be sad reality. I usually only like Nicole Kidman when she's teamed with Thandie Newton, but I digress since she plays an okay enough ghost. The story doesn't follow the dad at all as he's at war but we know he wasn't drafted but he chose to go using it as his own way of getting a divorce. Meanwhile, this was no everyday business trip; he was on the front lines, at war! Wars mean casualties. Casualty is another way of saying death. That's why they coined the phrase Pyrrhus Victory-----meaning so many died that instead of breaking out the champagne to celebrate an epic win; it may as well be a defeat. It's always hard to tell who-killed-who or who died of what so there's a chance he might have shot and killed a couple of people for survival before he himself was killed the same way; it's called retaliation. Still counted as murder. Meanwhile at home, Grace went mad and she killed her kids and she killed herself. Murder suicide is not going to go over so well but yeah technically speaking; both parents committed murder.