The portrayal of black female characters

I hear you, gurl, this is a new day--brothas betta get wtih the program!

Fact of the matter is, depending on the type of field you are in, it's difficult to find that man who is your everything and ready for you to be his everything.

I noticed in quite a few films and tv shows, there is a lot of resentment toward successful black female characters. They are often protrayed as being controlling, snobbish, superficial, gold-diggering phonies. Many writers and artists uses this image in their films and music to attack women they feel had rejected them in their real lives. I have heard many of them say that they are only depicting those particular women-not all women. But this often is not obvious to their audiences, one of the powers of film or music is that they shape the way many people think and impact culture.

I also had a problem with the way Lance was going to break off and stop the wedding with Mia without speaking with her first. He was ending their relationship based solely on what Harper told him about sleeping with her. The message seem to be that male camaraderie is tighter than a man and the women he asked to be his wife. Harper had to be the one to convince Lance to go ahead and marry her because she was the closest to perfection he was going to get.

The Mia character also did not seem right. This is a woman who is projected as religious, saving herself for marriage, and a virgin up-- until she meets Harper ( who is protrayed as the ultimate "decent" male fantasy ). I would think that if a woman holds on to her virginity this long, when she does have sex, even in a moment of weakness,it would be with a man she really deeply cared about--not a meaningless sexual encounter with a male friend. Mia was not a positive character. imperfect yes, but also a little devious, because while abstaining from sex with Lance, she postured herself as still a virgin, though she had slept with his best friend, Harper, and never mentioned it to him.

I think what the movie was saying that if you are a successful black woman you're sacrificing something in the process (ie relationship). Whereas if you're a successful black man, you can have your cake and eat it too.....have success and have a good relationship.

"Even after all my logic and my theory, I add add a mutha*ucka so you ig'nant n*ggas hear me"-LH

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In responding to the original poster . . . I don't think so. I think we may be reading WAY too much into SOME of these portrayals. I will go on record as saying that there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with a woman (no matter her ethnicity) making more money than a man or being as qualified, more qualified, or whatever.

Personally, this is a very endearing quality to me. In some peoples' eyes, I might be seen as a successful black male and in some peoples' eyes, I might not; but considering I work in Marketing, have NO criminal record, a veteran, family man, a church officer, etc., I have NO problem with a woman who is every bit or more successful as me. I find it to be very attractive; but this is just one guy's opinion.